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  • Coffer Dams and Motherhood: Being Seen on the Hard Days

    Coffer Dams and Motherhood: Being Seen on the Hard Days

    Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there. Motherhood is one of the most rewarding and difficult jobs of my life. Some days it stretches me to my limits, and some days it surprises me with small moments of grace. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

    When Motherhood Feels Heavy

    The other day was one of the hard ones. Nothing dramatic—just the slow pileup of decisions, messes, and worries that comes with raising small humans while trying to keep everything else in life moving forward.

    By bedtime, I felt wrung out and a little hollow, like I was running on fumes and expectations.

    That’s when my 6-year-old son, who knows how much I love reading about infrastructure and engineering, surprised me. That world is part of my work as an environmental professional, and it was a big focus in college. I still find it endlessly fascinating: how bridges stand, how dams hold, how someone once looked at a river or a marsh and thought, “We can build something here.” I love the history behind it too—the choices, mistakes, and bursts of ingenuity that gave us running water, paved roads, and power at the flip of a switch.

    An Engineering Book and a Small Act of Love

    That night, when it was time to pick out a book to read, my son paused a little longer than usual in front of the shelf. Normally he reaches for something about pirates or a familiar favorite. Instead, he pulled out an engineering book someone had given him. He flipped through the pages with a purpose and then landed on a section about coffer dams. He looked up at me and said he picked “the engineering part” because he knew it would make me happy.

    It stopped me in my tracks more than any store-bought Mother’s Day card ever could.

    We settled in to read. I started explaining what a coffer dam is, how it lets people work in a dry space while water is held back by steel walls, called sheet piles, driven into the earth. As I explained, I remembered my college professor with a Latin American accent who loved teaching about sheet piles. He knew exactly how the term sounded when he said it and would stretch it out with mock innocence that had the entire class laughing every single time. It’s a silly, fond memory, and it reminds me that even in the most technical fields, there’s a human side behind all the math and steel.

    As I read and shared those stories, I realized what my son had really done. He hadn’t just picked a book; he had reached for something that felt like me. In his 6-year-old way, he was saying, “I see you, Mom. I know what you like. I want to bring a little bit of that back to you.”

    His 2-year-old sister climbed into my lap too, not concerned with coffer dams or sheet piles—just happy to be included, her small body warm against mine. One child choosing the book he knew I’d love, the other snuggling in for the sound of my voice and the feel of my arms around her.

    There I was: tired, a little worn down, and surrounded by the two people who make this job both exhausting and holy.

    How Motherhood Feels Like Engineering

    It struck me how much motherhood feels like those engineering concepts I love. We build supports we hope will hold. We design routines and boundaries like invisible scaffolding. We stand in the middle of messy, rushing currents—school schedules, work deadlines, dinner, tantrums—and try to carve out solid ground where connection can happen. Some days the structure wobbles. Some days the coffer dam leaks. But then there are nights like this, when a 6-year-old chooses an engineering book to make his mom smile, and a 2-year-old tucks herself under my arm, and for a moment everything feels steady.

    This Mother’s Day, I’m thinking less about flowers or brunch and more about these small, thoughtful gestures—the way our kids notice us, even when they can’t quite put it into words. The way they remind us who we are outside of “Mom,” and love that person too.

    To all the moms who are tired, overwhelmed, and still showing up: I see you. May you get your own small coffer-dam moments—just enough dry ground, just enough support, and a few unexpected ways your kids show you they’re paying attention.

    What’s a small, thoughtful thing your child has done that made you feel truly seen as a mom?

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  • The Best Concerts of My Life: From Awolnation to Concerts in the Park

    The Best Concerts of My Life: From Awolnation to Concerts in the Park

    Daily writing prompt
    What is the best concert you have been to?
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    What is the best concert I’ve ever been to? I can’t pick just one concert experience. The “best” concert seems to depend on who I was at the time. Live music has a way of marking seasons of life, and a few Green Bay concert memories stand out for very different reasons.

    Awolnation in a Gritty Green Bay Bar

    In 2016, in Green Bay, Wisconsin, I bought tickets for my now-husband and me to see Awolnation. The show was in a bar with a large open area usually reserved for winter volleyball leagues. The ground was somehow both gritty and sticky. The concert started late; the crowd was all in, and I sang every word along with them. At one point, the lead singer changed a lyric in “Run” from “capable of doing terrible things” to “capable of doing beautiful things,” and that shift stuck with me. I started at the back of the room and slowly worked my way to the front, carried by the energy of the crowd. Near the end, he threw a guitar pick into the audience, and somehow, I caught it. It still sits in my curio cabinet, ready to tell its story—whether anyone asks or not. Even now, ten years later, it feels worth the lost sleep and the slow next day at work.

    A Beatles Tribute and Pregnancy at Lambeau

    A few years later, in 2019, music met me in a quieter moment. I was pregnant with my son when Paul McCartney came to Lambeau Field—a huge event for Green Bay. The night before, Titletown hosted a free concert with a Beatles tribute band, BritBeat. We brought lawn chairs; my husband grabbed a beer and an iced tea for me, and I settled in for a calm evening of familiar Beatles songs. The Beatles have a special place in my heart. In high school, an influential choir teacher introduced them to us, and it was the first time I realized how much lyrics matter—how they can turn a song into something that stays with you. As the band played “She Loves You” and “Eleanor Rigby,” I felt my son start to move. Sitting there, singing along, it felt like we were sharing the moment. It wasn’t loud or electric like Awolnation, but it carried a quieter kind of weight.

    Family-Friendly Concerts in the Park

    These days, concerts look different again. We go to local family-friendly Concerts in the Park, where my kids run off to play tag and make instant friends while the music drifts in and out. I sit in a lawn chair with a friend—or occasionally my husband, if I can convince him to come—and still sing along, sometimes making up my own lyrics just to keep things interesting. I run into acquaintances and friends who deepen my sense of belonging in the community. The music is still there, but now it plays under everything else: kids racing past, someone calling out a name, a conversation that pauses and picks back up between songs.

    How Live Music Marks Each Season of Life

    Someday, I’d love to bring my kids to a concert like that Awolnation show—something loud and unforgettable. But for now, this season of life fits. The best concert wasn’t just one night; it’s the way live music has followed me—from crowded floors to quiet evenings to kids running in the grass—changing right along with me as I’m raising kids and building community.

    Feature Photo by Phil Desforges on Unsplash

    What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to, and what season of your life does it remind you of?

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  • Life Lessons from Hard Seasons: Motherhood, Drought, and Growing Community

    Life Lessons from Hard Seasons: Motherhood, Drought, and Growing Community

    Daily writing prompt
    How do significant life events or the passage of time influence your perspective on life?
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    Life Lessons from Seasons of Change

    Life’s big shifts and slow seasons have humbled me more than I ever expected. These hard seasons have become some of my deepest life lessons.

    When I was younger, I believed effort alone could fix anything. If plans fell apart, I figured someone just wasn’t trying hard enough—or doing things the right way—maybe even me. There was real arrogance in that. I thought sheer willpower could bend the world to my plans.

    What a Drought Taught Me About Letting Go

    Then came the hard stops: moments no amount of grit could move. A garden lost to drought after I had my first child taught me that lesson faster than any sermon.

    No extra watering, no wishing, no late-night worrying brought back the harvest. That loss showed me surrender—not as giving up, but as meeting reality honestly and carrying only what’s mine. I still remember the cracked soil under my hands and the quiet ache of knowing this hard season of motherhood wasn’t mine to fix with effort alone.

    Finding Balance in Parenting and Daily Chaos

    These days, when chaos and noise fill the house or the coop, I pause instead of pushing harder. “What’s mine to carry?” has become a quiet mantra in these hard seasons of parenting.

    Boundaries, deep breaths, even tears—they build me back stronger. And honestly, I need those reminders often. These everyday moments are teaching me life lessons from the garden and the home, one small surrender at a time.

    Building Community Through Grace and Compassion

    Love feels different now, too. Gentler. I see the hidden weight in others—a neighbor worn thin, another parent stretching through a long week—and grace comes quicker.

    Community grows in those moments when compassion replaces judgment. Some days that looks like sharing a meal. Other days, it’s just listening without trying to fix. In their own way, these conversations are building community in hard times, one honest story at a time.

    Growing Through Time, Trust, and Faith

    Time weaves it all together—naivety to trust, effort to faith. The seasons remind me that everything sprouts, fades, and returns in its own time, even in our hard seasons of life.

    My job is to show up faithfully—to tend what I can, raise my kids with patience, and keep building a life that roots deeply in love and community. These are the life lessons from hard seasons that shape how I move through the world now.

    Feature Photo by Natalia Gasiorowska on Unsplash

    How have your hard seasons changed you? I’d love to hear how time has softened or strengthened your own soil—share in the comments below.

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  • The Chore That Never Gets Done (and Why That’s Okay)

    The Chore That Never Gets Done (and Why That’s Okay)

    Something on your “to-do list” that never gets done.

    There’s one item that’s been living rent-free on my to-do list for what feels like forever: deep-clean the house. Every week I write it down with the best intentions, and every week it stares back at me, smug and unchecked.

    Sure, I’m great at the daily tidy-ups—the quick resets, leaping over toys, and keeping countertops visible (mostly). But the real deep clean? Scrubbing baseboards, washing curtains, or tackling the mystery stuff in the back of the cabinets? Somehow that always gets bumped down the list by, well… just about everything else.

    Part of the problem is our ongoing upstairs renovation. Two years in, and we’re still coaxing this old house back to life—tearing out lath and plaster, sealing drywall, trying to keep ahead of the dusty evidence. That fine gray film drifts through the house like snow that overstays its welcome. Add two little kids who turn any clean surface into an art project within minutes, and—let’s be honest—deep cleaning doesn’t stand a chance.

    By the time evening rolls around, my energy’s long gone. I look around, spot another trail of cracker crumbs, and think, good enough till tomorrow. Honestly, I’ll take progress over perfection any day.

    My (Somewhat Hopeful) Game Plan

    I keep telling myself there has to be a way to outsmart this never-ending chore. Maybe it’s not about a single heroic cleaning day but smaller, practical wins.

    • Fifteen-minute power bursts. Pick one room, one task, one playlist. Quick sweep, easy win.
    • Recruit the tiny troops. The kids love joining in—with spray bottles and rags, no less. Sure, it takes longer, but at least we laugh through it.
    • Wait for calmer seasons. Once the last coat of paint dries and the drywall dust clears, I’ll finally give this place a top-to-bottom refresh.
    • Keep the dream in mind. A calm, clean space where we can all exhale—that’s the goal. Future me will be thrilled.

    Until then, I’m embracing the real version of home: a little messy, a lot loved, always humming with life. Between raising kids, growing things outside, and building something meaningful in our community, there’s bound to be dust somewhere—and that’s okay.

    Feature Photo by Jason Leung on Unsplash

    So tell me—what’s the chore that never quite leaves your list? Let’s swap confessions in the comments and remind each other that perfect isn’t the point—living fully is.

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  • My Mission: Growing Food, Raising Kids, and Building Community — A Path Back to Connection

    My Mission: Growing Food, Raising Kids, and Building Community — A Path Back to Connection

    Daily writing prompt
    What is your mission?
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    “We’re stronger together.”
    — A lesson from the land, the past, and the heart.

    Some days, I find myself wondering why I share so much of my messy, joyful, back-to-the-land life. Then I remember—it’s not just a blog; it’s a declaration of purpose. I’m not just learning to grow food or raise livestock. I’m learning to build a life rooted in connection, resilience, and love—the kind of life that feels increasingly rare in our modern world.

    Growing Food

    My mission comes back to the words that guide everything I do: “Growing food, raising kids, building community.”

    Growing food isn’t just about self-sufficiency; it’s about slowing down and remembering that life takes time. Whether it’s a full garden, a few backyard hens, or a pot of herbs on a sunny windowsill, each act connects us to the earth and to the generations who worked it before us.

    You don’t need acres to begin—just a seed, a container, and a little sunlight.

    Even one small step can be the beginning of a more grounded life. Each seed planted is a reminder that we can create abundance with our own hands.

    Raising Kids

    Just as tending the garden teaches patience, so does parenting. Homesteading is a classroom like no other—muddy, humbling, and full of wonder.

    It teaches our children what no textbook can: that hard work matters, that life is cyclical, and that family is their safe harbor in a sometimes harsh world.

    My hope is that my kids grow up knowing home isn’t merely a place—it’s a legacy we build with care and intention. Whether they keep chickens, plant tomatoes, or simply carry these values forward, I want them to understand where they come from and who they are.

    Building Community

    And then there’s community—the heartbeat of homesteading and, I believe, our survival as humans.

    American society often tells us that strength comes from independence—that we should manage everything ourselves, and outsource what we can’t, because we’re too exhausted to do it all. But that version of “strength” leaves us burned out and disconnected.

    True strength doesn’t grow in isolation—it blossoms in interdependence.

    Sometimes that means swapping seeds or recipes; other times, it’s checking on a neighbor or being brave enough to ask for help. We were never meant to do this alone.

    Lessons from the Past

    When I think about how far we’ve drifted from those roots, I can’t help but look back with respect. Our great-grandparents understood community in ways we’ve forgotten.

    Their lives weren’t easy—many faced relentless hardship. I once read about children in rural Wisconsin in the 1930s who walked miles to town barefoot, carrying their shoes so they wouldn’t wear them out. They’d put them on only once they reached town, because those shoes had to last—and often be passed down to the next child.

    Those stories remind me that while the past wasn’t perfect, it carried wisdom worth keeping. People ate real food, raised resilient children, and looked out for their neighbors. They knew that survival wasn’t just about grit—it was about connection and care.

    Planting Hope

    In the end, that’s what I want my life—and this blog—to reflect. I want to inspire others to live intentionally, grow their own food, raise their families with love, and reconnect with the people around them.

    Because when we nurture the soil, our children, and each other, we’re planting more than gardens—we’re planting hope. And in that hope, we rediscover a simple truth our ancestors never forgot:

    We are always stronger together.

    Now it’s your turn. How do you balance modern life’s demands with a desire to live more simply? Tell me about it in the comments. Let’s start a conversation!

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  • We’re Stronger Together: Homesteading, Family, and the Power of a Village

    We’re Stronger Together: Homesteading, Family, and the Power of a Village

    If you had a freeway billboard, what would it say?

    “Real life — the good kind — isn’t a solo project. It’s meant to be shared.”

    If I Had a Freeway Billboard, It Would Say:
    “We’re Stronger Together.”
    Simple. Short. True.

    That phrase might only take a second to read, but it’s something I’ve come to believe deeply over time. Homesteading, parenting, and everyday life keep reminding me that none of us truly thrive in isolation. We can’t — and we’re not meant to.

    The Myth of “Doing It All”
    I’ve tried to “do it all” before. Maybe you have, too.

    I remember one quiet afternoon watching our toddler play alone in the wide stretch of our backyard. Sunlight shone on his light blonde hair. Chickens were clucking somewhere behind him. The smell of wet grass lingered after the rain. My husband and I had been talking about having another child, but the thought brought a flood of questions. Could we manage it all — raising little ones, keeping the homestead going, working — without losing our minds or each other?

    That moment planted a seed. I didn’t know it then, but it would change how we lived. Even though we were proud of our self-sufficiency, trying to do everything alone left us stretched thin and quietly disconnected.

    Real life — the good kind — isn’t a solo project. It’s meant to be shared.

    In the four years since that afternoon, so much has changed. We moved closer to family and, not long after, welcomed our daughter — another beautiful whirlwind of toddler energy. Now we have more of a village to help raise her. And in turn, we can show up for others.

    That web of giving and receiving has made all the difference. It’s turned our days into something more sustainable, more joyful, and far more connected.

    Why “Together” Matters
    It’s easy to imagine strength as something proven alone. But real strength is interwoven — built through connection, trust, and shared effort.

    It’s the kind that shows up when neighbors help fix our house, when friends drop off soup unasked, or when laughter spills out during chores that would otherwise feel endless.

    On the homestead, togetherness looks like shared harvests and muddy boots side by side. The garden gets weeded faster when more than one person is pulling. The work lightens, and the smiles come easier.

    That’s the kind of strength that fills the spaces where frustration or loneliness might otherwise take root.

    And that same truth guides the way we’re raising our kids.

    Building “Together” at Home
    In our family, we talk a lot about contributing to the household — because this home’s success belongs to all of us.

    Since I started giving our six-year-old a daily job, he’s made it clear he doesn’t always love it. He sighs, he drags his feet, and he grumbles his way through — but he does it.

    And afterward, something shifts. My load feels lighter, our days run smoother, and I have more time to simply be with him — to laugh, to listen, to connect.

    The lesson is simple but powerful: we build strength, resilience, and belonging not by doing everything ourselves, but by doing our part together.

    What That Billboard Really Means
    So if someone sped past my billboard and read the words “We’re stronger together,” I’d hope it would land right when they needed it most — in a moment of overwhelm, or when they’re trying to carry too much alone.

    Because strength doesn’t have to mean solitude. Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is reach out a hand — or take one that’s being offered.

    After all, the strongest gardens — like families — grow best when many hands tend them.

    And that truth keeps my feet steady, season after season.

    We’re stronger. Together.

    What’s one way someone has shown up for you recently? Please share your stories in the comments.

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  • From Ghost Ships to Dragons: Growing a Family of Readers

    From Ghost Ships to Dragons: Growing a Family of Readers

    What book are you reading right now?

    Some of my earliest memories are of getting lost in a book. I read on the school bus until the motion made me queasy but I never quite wanted to stop. Books have always been my favorite escape into bigger worlds. That love of stories has shaped much of who I am today.

    Now, as a parent of two—my curious six-year-old son and my energetic two-year-old daughter—reading has taken on new meaning. It’s no longer just a solitary escape; it’s a shared experience, a daily rhythm that brings us back together. Whether it’s a quiet bedtime story or an impromptu library trip on a rainy afternoon, I want them to see reading not as a chore, but as something joyful and full of possibility.

    During one of our library visits, we found Great Lakes Ghost Stories perched on top of a shelf. It felt like it had been placed there, waiting for us to grab it. Living near Lake Michigan, my son has a fascination with shipwrecks and ghost stories, so the book was an instant hit. We’ve been working our way through it a little each night. We imagine the waves, the fog, and the echoes of the past as we read. It’s a story that captures us both, which makes that time feel even more special.


    Of course, there’s still plenty of toddler-friendly reading mixed in. My daughter adores Dragons Love Tacos—especially the part where the dragons accidentally burn down the house. She throws her arms in the air and pretends to breathe fire every time, her giggles filling the room. Those moments remind me that the love of reading isn’t just about the stories themselves but about how they bring laughter, wonder, and connection into our home.

    Reading has also become my own kind of reset. After long days, there’s comfort in sitting beside my children with a book in hand, letting the day fade as we turn the pages. Books remind me that curiosity is ageless and that stories have the power to grow with us. Watching my children surrounded by them feels like passing down a quiet kind of magic—one that never loses its spark.

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  • October’s Echo: A Season of Memory and Magic

    October’s Echo: A Season of Memory and Magic

    Some months pass quietly—but October lingers, glowing with memory, magic, and the warmth of home.

    The Quiet Gift of Autumn’s Return

    I love October. There’s something about this month that feels like coming home. The leaves shift from summer’s green to a fiery mosaic of gold, amber, and crimson. They swirl down streets and crunch softly beneath every step. Porches glow with pumpkins and corn stalks, windows flicker with candlelight, and neighborhoods seem to hum with gentle anticipation.

    I love the comfort of pulling on a warm sweater as the evenings grow cooler. I enjoy wrapping up in a thick blanket. The air carries the first faint scent of wood smoke and fallen leaves. The gardens slow their rhythm. The soil rests after months of tireless giving. The earth itself seems to exhale—a sigh of contentment before winter’s long sleep. There’s peace in harvesting the last tomatoes. There’s tranquility in gathering the last handfuls of herbs. We savor one final taste of summer before the frost settles in.

    A Childhood Revisited Through Pumpkin Light

    But October’s beauty runs deeper than the colors and the cold. It reminds me of past celebrations, those experienced and those I simply wished to experience.

    I think back to the St. Andrew’s costume party I attended once as a child. I can still picture the warm, crowded gym. The scent of caramel and popcorn filled the air. Laughter echoed between the walls. Though the old school is gone now, torn down years ago, the spirit of that place still lingers.

    The party lives on in a new building, but when I returned last year for the first time in three decades—with my own children by my side—it felt as if time hadn’t passed at all. The candy walk, the costume contest, the same spirited laughter—it was all there. Even some of the faces were familiar, now softened by age and framed by parenthood. We smiled at each other knowingly, as if to say, we made it back.

    That night reminded me how October can blur the line between past and present, turning nostalgia into something alive again.

    The Magic of Living the Dreams We Once Imagined

    And of course, there’s Halloween and the magic of trick-or-treating. It is a tradition I always longed for as a child but never had the chance to experience. I used to wonder what it felt like. I imagined the excitement of dressing up. I thought about the sound of other children’s laughter carried on the wind. I dreamt of the thrill of walking house to house, bag full of sweet treasures, under a canopy of stars. For years, it was a wish left unfulfilled, a tiny missing piece of wonder.

    Now, through my children, I can finally live that dream. I watch their anticipation as they choose their costumes—a pirate and Tigger—and plan their routes with careful excitement.

    The afternoon itself feels electric: porch lights glowing like beacons, leaves scattering under quick footsteps, the calls of “thank you!” trailing off into crisp air. I listen to their candy buckets clink, watch their laughter spill into the darkness, and think of all the years I imagined what this would feel like. In their joy, I see both who I was and who I’ve become: a child rediscovering wonder and a parent guiding it forward.

    October, for me, has grown into something sacred—a bridge linking memory and experience, longing and fulfillment. It’s a season that teaches me about cycles, about how endings carry new beginnings quietly within them. Through my children, I relive the magic I once missed, while creating bright new memories all our own.

    When the last porch lights flicker out and my children’s footsteps fade into the cool evening, I feel the month settle gently in my heart. October has a way of staying—with its color, its warmth, its echoes of laughter. It lingers like the glow of a jack-o’-lantern long after the candle inside has gone out.

    Your turn

    What’s your favorite October memory—the one that still feels alive no matter how many years have passed?

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