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Real Happiness on Four Wheels: A Tribute to My First Car

What is your all time favorite automobile?

If you ever want to understand what makes someone tick, ask them about their first car. Mine wasn’t glamorous or fast, but it carried more freedom and memories than any fancy model ever could.

My all-time favorite automobile was the first one I ever owned—a maroon 1996 Oldsmobile Ciera. My dad found it sitting in a driveway after its elderly owner had passed away. It hadn’t moved in two years, and when he got a deal on it, we discovered why: the engine seals had failed, and gasoline had leaked into the oil. Once repaired, though, that stubborn old thing came to life—and stayed that way for years.

We called it the Red Chariot, and in time, the name fit perfectly. That car saw me through the end of high school, college, and most of grad school—about an hour’s drive away. I learned responsibility with every commute: how to check oil, how to handle Wisconsin winters, and how to hear when something “just didn’t sound right.” It carried me into adulthood one modest mile at a time.

The Red Chariot also became part of my love story. My boyfriend (now husband) and I drove it on little adventures whenever life allowed—from southeastern Wisconsin to the Upper Peninsula of Michigan and all the way down to the Great Smoky Mountains. The brakes whined on long descents, the air conditioner worked only half the time, but we didn’t care. Those drives were full of laughter, music, and cheap motel coffee—memories that still smell faintly like gasoline and pine trees.

Then came The Event. A couple of weeks before, I noticed the steering wheel sitting just slightly off-center. I brushed it off as nothing serious. A week later, I parked by a friend’s house, grabbed my bags, and joined my parents and boyfriend for a long-planned road trip out west. We returned sunburned, travel-tired, and happy. I slid back into the driver’s seat of my car, turned the key, and immediately noticed it—an odd, “extra bouncy” feeling as the road hummed beneath me.

So I called my boyfriend, the trained mechanic, and asked, “How do I tell if a tire’s flat while I’m driving?”

Without missing a beat, he chuckled, “Easy. You pull over, get out, and if it’s flat—you’ll know.”

Classic him. I pulled over anyway, checked all four tires, and found them just fine. Satisfied, I merged back onto the highway and carried on.

The next day, he slid under the car to replace the shocks. That’s when he found it: rust had eaten clean through part of the frame, separating it from the rear axle. The Red Chariot had given everything it had. There was no fixing it this time.

We didn’t send it off with fanfare, just a quiet goodbye. Still, I couldn’t help running my hand along its faded maroon hood one last time. That car had carried me through some of the most formative years of my life—independence, love, responsibility, and grown-up laughter. It had been my safe space, my escape, and sometimes, my therapy room on wheels.

The Red Chariot was never showy or high-tech, but it was steady. It started most mornings, forgave my mistakes, and brought me home, every time. In a world obsessed with upgrades and flash, that simple dependability feels almost sacred.

I’ve driven newer cars since then, ones with sleeker paint and better gas mileage. But none have had quite the same heartbeat. Because some vehicles don’t just drive you to places—they carry you through chapters of your life.

So yes, my favorite car was an old, rusty Oldsmobile. It taught me that what matters isn’t horsepower or luxury—it’s heart, loyalty, and the quiet comfort of something that keeps showing up, mile after mile.

That little maroon Ciera might be gone, but in some small way, it’s still driving with me.

Your turn—what was your first car? Did it have a name, quirks, or memories that still make you smile? Share your first-car stories in the comments below. I’d love to hear them!

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The Day I Got on the Wrong Bus: Lessons in Getting Lost and Finding Your Way

Tell us about your first day at something — school, work, as a parent, etc.

If homesteading (and parenting) has taught me anything, it’s that sometimes you have to take the wrong path before you find the right one. Today’s daily prompt reminded me of a story from my very first day of kindergarten when I quite literally got lost before I’d even learned how to spell the word. Funny how those early misadventures can shape the way we guide our kids years later.

You know that feeling when you’re five years old, wearing brand-new white tennis shoes, and suddenly realize you have absolutely no idea where you’re supposed to be? That was me on my very first day of kindergarten in 1995 — tiny, determined, and totally lost.

I was trailing behind my five older sisters, trying to look like I belonged there. They were seasoned pros of the school bus world; I was just thrilled to be tagging along with my pink backpack bouncing against my back. When we reached the bus transfer station, they pointed to a spot like little generals giving orders.

“Wait right here. Your bus will come for you.”

So I did. For about five minutes — though it felt much longer.

When the crowd started thinning out and my bus still hadn’t arrived, I asked a few kids if I was in the right spot. But, for reasons only a five-year-old can explain, I decided I couldn’t trust them. So naturally, I did the logical thing: I got on a bus. Not my bus — just a bus.

For about ten glorious minutes, I felt like I had solved all of life’s transportation problems. And then I realized… nothing outside the window looked familiar. By the time the bus doors opened, my confidence evaporated into pure panic.

Thankfully, a kind teacher noticed the look on my face — equal parts terror and regret — and asked what was wrong.

“Um,” I whispered, “I’m supposed to go to the other school in town.”

The words worked like magic. Within minutes, I was in the principal’s office, then riding across town in the principal’s personal car. Nothing says “first day of kindergarten” quite like accidentally securing a chauffeured ride before lunch. I was fashionably late, but I made it.

Fast forward thirty years, and it was my son’s turn to start kindergarten. Naturally, I had flashbacks to my five-year-old self making bold (if ill-informed) transportation choices. But his situation was a little trickier. He only rode the bus home in the afternoons — when there were multiple routes running and plenty of room for confusion.

The thought of him ending up on a different route and getting home an hour late brought back that same pit-in-the-stomach feeling. So, I called the school ahead of time, explained my 1995 misadventure, and said, as calmly as possible, “I just want to make sure my kid doesn’t pull a ‘me’.”

The staff, bless them, took me seriously. For the first eight weeks of school, they made sure he wore a big sticker on his shirt every afternoon with all the important details. He even had a “bus buddy,” an older kid assigned to get on the same bus. (I liked to think of it as his small-town security detail.)

He never got on the wrong bus, though he did manage to forget his backpack once. Progress, right?

Looking back, I realize that first day taught me more than just the importance of knowing your bus number. Getting lost, it turns out, isn’t the worst thing that can happen — it’s just part of finding your way.

Whether it’s school buses, parenting, or life on the homestead, we’re all bound to take the scenic route now and then. And honestly, those are the best stories to tell later. Especially if you can laugh about them once you’re home safe.

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From Nerves to Connection: Lessons from a Lifetime of Public Speaking

Have you ever performed on stage or given a speech?

My heartbeat quickened as the announcer called my name, each syllable echoing through the microphone. Applause filled the conference hall as I walked toward the podium, my shoes tapping softly against the floor. The room smelled faintly of coffee and stale donuts—a familiar comfort for the last session before lunch. Three projectors displayed my name and the title of my talk across the front wall. I took one steady breath and began to speak.

Halfway through my introduction, I tripped over a phrase, my words tangling awkwardly. For a split second, silence hung in the air. I paused, smiled, and let the moment pass before starting again—steadier this time. The audience leaned in, and I felt the nervous flutter in my chest begin to calm. Each time I speak, that same nervous energy greets me. I’ve learned how to meet it—with preparation, practice, and a well-crafted presentation that keeps me grounded.

I’ve stood on stages many times—singing solos in church, acting in school plays, and competing in forensics tournaments. One of my favorites was a comedic solo about a teenager who keeps a telemarketer on the line so long that they tried to hang up on me. The laughter that day taught me something essential: the magic of connecting with people through words.

Since then, I’ve spoken before classrooms, assemblies, and professional conferences. As my career in environmental science has grown, so has my understanding of what it means to communicate with purpose. Each talk reminds me that the real power of knowledge lies not just in understanding facts, but in sharing them clearly, honestly, and with care.

When the applause finally faded and I stepped down from the podium, relief washed over me. Then I spotted a familiar face in the crowd—an old friend I hadn’t seen in years. Over lunch, we laughed and traded stories that felt like no time had passed. That unexpected reunion reminded me why I love speaking. Beyond facts or slides, it’s about connection—between speaker and listener, between old friends, between moments shared in the same space.

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The Worst Resort Ever: How My Family Turned Crisis Into Connection and Gratitude

What positive events have taken place in your life over the past year?

When my mom called her three-week hospital stay “the worst resort ever,” we laughed—a little nervously, but genuinely. That’s just who she is: tough as nails with humor for armor. The “resort” came with a 24-hour staff, questionable cuisine, and, as she joked, “the world’s least relaxing accommodations.” Her wit kept us sane when fear started to creep in.

Those three weeks stretched into months. Days blurred—in and out of the hospital, school drop-offs, late-night worry, and the exhausting act of pretending I was fine. My son picked up on my tension, his small frustrations echoing emotions he couldn’t yet name. My daughter, just learning to walk, toddled through the chaos—a daily reminder that life moves forward whether you’re ready or not.

In the thick of it, my husband was my anchor. He absorbed my anxiety without complaint, reminding me to breathe when my thoughts tangled into knots. Sometimes he listened. Sometimes he made me laugh. Always, he was there—steady, patient, grounding me when everything else felt like quicksand.

My dad carried his own quiet strength. Despite long days, he drove the hour to see Mom four or five times a week with a gallon of 2% milk riding shotgun. He’d take a swig now and then—old farmer habits die hard. One of my sisters often joined him, their conversations stretching across miles of highway. I joined when I could, and those drives became our therapy sessions. We talked about everything and nothing. Some days, silence said enough. His constancy humbled me—proof that love doesn’t always speak; sometimes it just keeps showing up.

Ma, on her liquid diet—when she could eat—still managed to make everyone laugh. She rated her hospital broth like a food critic. Even from a hospital bed, she made humor feel like an act of defiance.

Somewhere in the middle of all this, I found my way back to writing. What began as venting turned into something more—a way to turn chaos into meaning. When I started sharing my words, nervous but hopeful, people responded. Strangers became friends. Writing became a bridge back to others and a lifeline to myself.

Then came my sisters—the surprise support team I didn’t know I needed. What started as a group chat for Ma updates turned into our daily outlet of laughter and love. We share memes, encouragement, and family gossip, keeping each other afloat. That digital thread has become our shared heartbeat, buzzing with life even on the hardest days.

When the storm finally eased, light crept back into our days. Mom’s health steadied. My son learned patience for his big feelings. My daughter’s baby steps turned into joyful runs. My husband and I rediscovered laughter, and the house felt warm again.

The fearful year ended in gratitude—messy, exhausting, transformative gratitude. I learned that strength isn’t silence; it’s presence. Sometimes it’s cracking a joke when you want to cry or reaching for someone’s hand when you can’t stand on your own. The “worst resort ever” ended up teaching us the best lessons on love, resilience, and the healing power of laughter.

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What the World Taught Me About Home

Do you have a favorite place you have visited? Where is it?

The place I love most isn’t on any map. It’s not a landmark or an exotic beach, but it’s the center of everything I’ve learned about belonging. When I trace the path to it, I travel through every memory that once made the world feel both huge and intimate.

I remember a quiet afternoon on a Pacific beach in El Salvador—the crash of waves against the sand, the sun melting into the horizon, my first taste of discovery outside the familiar. The ocean taught me that beauty can silence everything, even thought.

In Glacier National Park, I learned that wonder thrives in stillness. My parents and soon-to-be husband and I climbed along the Going-to-the-Sun Road, chasing glaciers that remained just out of reach. A mountain goat appeared on the rocks as we paused, breathless. In that hush between sky and earth, I understood that some connections—like some landscapes—reveal their depth only in silence.

Las Vegas was the opposite of quiet. My sister and I rode an outdoor escalator lit by neon, laughing at nothing. I held a beer, feeling halfway mischievous, halfway adult. The city taught me that joy doesn’t need purpose—it simply asks to be felt.

Then came Hyder, Alaska, on our honeymoon. We walked a boardwalk beside a still river, two weeks too early to watch bears catching salmon. But the air smelled of ocean and pine, and the stillness felt earned. There, I realized peace is less a destination than a rhythm you carry home.

All those places remain with me—freedom, quiet, joy, peace—woven into the life my husband and I have built. Our home hums with life: a garden bursting with vegetables, pigs rooting in the dirt, chickens scattering across the yard, our children’s laughter rolling through the air. The world feels small here, in the best way, and full of meaning.

Sometimes, as evening settles in, I imagine a fireplace flickering in the corner—an extra measure of warmth for all that already glows. Because here, in this home stitched together from every place I’ve loved, every sunset feels both familiar and new, as if the journey never really ended—it just found its hearth.

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Snow Boots and Soul: Loving the Real You

What are your two favorite things to wear?

If clothes could talk, mine would whisper, “Keep it simple, keep it real.” I’ve never dressed to dazzle; I’d like to think my wit and thoughtfulness handle that. My two favorites—leggings and slip-on shoes—form my daily uniform, a quiet stand against pretense that champions ease and presence.

Leggings are my unshakable foundation. No zippers pinching, no seams chafing—they stretch through curled-up reading marathons or frantic errand dashes. Years ago on a snowy first date, my breath fogging the crisp air, I pulled on jeggings to meet the man who’d someday become my husband. Snow boots crunched softly as I crossed the driveway to his truck. We’d known each other for years, but this felt electric. He laughed with me, saw the real me, and fell harder. While others chased one-shoulder dresses that year, my practicality carved space for unfiltered connection.

My slip-on shoes share this no-nonsense vibe. One slide, and I’m out the door: ready for park strolls, meetings, or walking outside during that snowy date, no lace-tying delays. Their worn soles have hugged my steps through decades—unflappable, like the reliability that let our spark endure.

I’ve learned the hard way sometimes that style does have its place. At my bridal shower, I underdressed in leggings and slip-ons. What had felt “nice enough” to me upset a loved one important to the bridal party, who saw rebellion where I saw comfort. That clash reaffirmed why these pieces endure: true style balances self with sensitivity, letting mind and heart lead without alienating.

In the end, these favorites aren’t mere picks; they’re my vote for authenticity. They strip distractions, letting me show up kind, thoughtful, wholly myself. They also prove, as my husband’s grin confirmed back then, the right person always loves the real you, snow boots and all.

What’s your go-to outfit for showing up as your authentic self?

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The Farmstead Paradox: How Technology Frees Us and Challenges Us

What technology would you be better off without, why?

What if I unplugged everything—just one day—and watched my farmstead world grind back to its raw roots?

Sun crests the barn at 5:45 am. No alarm jolts me; instinct pulls me up. We feed the animals, hauling water, grinding feed. We dress kids by fading lantern glow. Husband carries our daughter down the grassy footworn path to Grandma’s. I hitch the old wagon, walking our son two miles to school through dust and dawn chatter—no 10-minute car hum.

Home, I’d scrub laundry in the tub, no machine whirl. Meals bubble over wood fire, not Crock-Pot ease. Bread dough yields to muscle on the oak table, sans Kitchen Aid. No working outside the home for me. Husband swings scythe and shovel where tractors rule now; breakdowns mean hammer, anvil, firelight fixes. We could do it all—generations did. But tasks balloon from minutes to hours, bones aching, daylight devoured.

Reality snaps back: technology saves my soul. Remote work keeps me here for first words, bus arrivals, story hours no commute steals. Farm machines turn brutality into rhythm, sustaining us without wrecking backs. Humans thrived millennia hauling water, grinding grain by hand. Yet why suffer when tools free us for laughter, learning, presence?

Smartphones, though—these pocket tyrants I’d temper first. Last week, a ping ripped me from our son’s magnatile tower mid-build. “Just one email,” I thought. Half an hour vanished, his glee stolen.

Notifications shred focus; feeds erode dinner talk; blue light robs sleep. We’d survive without them, grit conquering all. But boundaries—silent family hours, apps locked post-8—restore what tech should amplify.

No full unplugging for us. We’ve glimpsed the raw possible, but embracing tools with fierce reins honors ingenuity and roots. Here on the farmstead, kids’ laughter rises under starlit skies: progress, bounded, yields the richest harvest.

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Roots Uprooted: Choosing Family Over Home

What’s the hardest decision you’ve ever had to make? Why?

I walked the yard one last time, tracing fences and trees like scars on a lover’s skin. It’s crazy how something that once felt so familiar can suddenly feel worlds away.

The Drive That Broke Me
That two-hour drive home from Christmas just dragged on. My husband kept saying, “Our son needs cousins nearby, grandparents around the corner. Your parents aren’t getting any younger. And that family diagnosis… it’s time we really thought about what matters most.”

His words kept piling up, like snow drifting over all those years we’d spent here. I was holding tight to this quiet rural life. Meanwhile, he quietly pulled away, and the distance between us grew every year.

Roots I Couldn’t Uproot
I loved this land—finally had friends, a house that felt like mine after all that searching.

He never really settled. For him, this place felt more like a cage than a home.

The Moment Everything Changed
That family diagnosis had been hanging over us, but what really broke me was Christmas at his parents’ house. Everything felt tight, forced—smiles stretched thin, pauses filled with unspoken tension. Our son didn’t know quite what to make of it all.

On top of that, my parents’ health kept slipping. The spaces in our family were widening. Staying meant risking losing them all.

The Yes That Broke Me
We didn’t say much that night. The silence carried everything we couldn’t put into words. Finally, I just whispered, “Okay.”

No more tears left—just that stunned quiet as I wandered the yard, trying to soak in every curve, knowing I was letting go.

How It Changed Me
Leaving meant giving up on solitude and peace for family and chaos—but honestly, no regrets.

Now, I watch our son laugh and play in his grandparents’ arms. I’ve held my parents through their darker days and welcomed our daughter into this tight-knit fold.

Sometimes love means stepping back to grow deeper roots—roots that grew stronger because I chose family over place. And yeah, I still miss the quiet sometimes. But this? This is home.

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Waking Dreams: The Life I’d Live Without Sleep

If you didn’t need sleep, what would you do with all the extra time?

What if the hours I spend asleep were suddenly mine to reclaim? Imagine the possibilities unfolding when the need for sleep disappears—every extra minute a doorway to creativity, connection, and joy.

With that precious gift of time, I would dive headfirst into my passions. Writing, for me, is more than words on a page; it’s a lifeline to my inner world. I would spend hours crafting stories and reflections, letting my thoughts roam freely without the constraints of a ticking clock. The soft scratch of pen on paper or the steady clack of keyboard keys would become a comforting rhythm in the long, uninterrupted nights.

Reading, too, would become a daily adventure rather than a stolen moment. I envision curling up with books that whisk me away to new worlds, expanding my understanding one page at a time. Each story would fuel my imagination and feed my mind, creating a vibrant tapestry of inspiration.

In the kitchen, the act of cooking and baking would transform into a joyful exploration of flavors and textures. I long to try new recipes, experiment with spices, and share the fruits of my labor with those I love. The warm scent of fresh bread or the sweet aroma of baked goods would fill the air, turning mundane meals into celebrations.

But above all, the moments spent playing with my children would be my treasure. Without the rush of everyday responsibilities, I would lose myself in their laughter and wonder. Whether building forts, telling stories, or simply running wild in the backyard, this time would deepen our bond and create memories that last a lifetime.

Even though I don’t have endless hours without sleep, that very limitation makes every creative moment more precious. Knowing time is finite encourages me to savor each burst of inspiration, every shared smile, and the warmth of home-cooked meals. The boundaries imposed by sleep sharpen my appreciation for these passions, reminding me that it’s not the quantity, but the depth of experience that truly matters. So, if I couldn’t sleep, I’d embrace the gift of extra time—and if I must, I will cherish the time I do have all the more.

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Pet Peeves Can Teach Us More Than We Think

Name your top three pet peeves.

Everyone has pet peeves—those small irritations that can silently gnaw at our patience. For me, they reveal more than just frustration; they mark my journey toward empathy and self-awareness. I try hard not to complain because I know I am truly fortunate. I have a life filled with comfort and people who support me. When I’m asked about my top three pet peeves, I realize they reflect who I am beneath the surface. They also show how far I’ve come. My three top pet peeves are based on how we treat each other: moral superiority, selfishness, and condescension.

The Weight of Judgmental, Morally Superior People
I learned a painful lesson about judgment from a friend. She rightfully withdrew after I reacted to her with criticism rather than compassion. That moment still lingers—when they vulnerably shared their struggles, and I judged their choices instead of hearing their heart. The sting of that loss taught me how easy it is to judge without walking in someone else’s shoes. Now, when I face moral superiority, from others or myself, I pause to remember. We all live complex lives shaped by experiences others can’t fully grasp. Judgment is a quick and lonely reaction; empathy takes more courage but builds connection.

The Sting of Selfishness and Isolation
Selfishness frustrates me deeply. I am especially frustrated by the refusal to embrace community in parenting and care giving. I once believed I could handle everything alone, armed with sheer will and rigid routines. Yet endless sleepless nights and isolation soon shattered that illusion. I still recall the raw exhaustion and quiet desperation before I accepted help and found strength in community. Watching others withdraw or show impatience with children stings because it undermines what I now know. We thrive in villages, not in solo isolation. People can also act selfishly without fully understanding how their choices ripple outward and affect those around them. This makes compassion and honest conversation even more important.

The Quiet Poison of Condescension from a Loved One
Condescension is unlike judgment in a profound way. It is steeped in strong feelings and visible actions: the raised eyebrow, the patronizing tone, the dismissive glance. These actions communicate contempt and make you feel small. I unfortunately became intimately familiar with those feelings from a trusted loved one during my childhood. Back then, I believed shrinking myself might somehow earn their approval. The sting of those subtle rejections echoed for years. Building my confidence has been a slow, ongoing process that still unfolds. Recognizing condescension as thought, behavior, and emotion has helped me protect my worth today. It has also marked a crucial part of healing.

From Peeves to Perspective
These pet peeves are more than annoyances; they are milestones on my path of growth. They lay bare the familiar traps of judgment, selfishness, and contempt. They remind me of how far I have come in responding with compassion toward others and myself. Complaining only raises my heart rate and drags me into a negative head space. Instead, I lean into these moments of discomfort as invitations to think and learn. After all, life is a messy, beautiful journey, and we are all works in progress navigating it together.

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