Family Life – Practical Homesteading

My Mission: Growing Food, Raising Kids, and Building Community — A Path Back to Connection

Daily writing prompt

What is your mission?

“We’re stronger together.”
— A lesson from the land, the past, and the heart.

Some days, I find myself wondering why I share so much of my messy, joyful, back-to-the-land life. Then I remember—it’s not just a blog; it’s a declaration of purpose. I’m not just learning to grow food or raise livestock. I’m learning to build a life rooted in connection, resilience, and love—the kind of life that feels increasingly rare in our modern world.

Growing Food

My mission comes back to the words that guide everything I do: “Growing food, raising kids, building community.”

Growing food isn’t just about self-sufficiency; it’s about slowing down and remembering that life takes time. Whether it’s a full garden, a few backyard hens, or a pot of herbs on a sunny windowsill, each act connects us to the earth and to the generations who worked it before us.

You don’t need acres to begin—just a seed, a container, and a little sunlight.

Even one small step can be the beginning of a more grounded life. Each seed planted is a reminder that we can create abundance with our own hands.

Raising Kids

Just as tending the garden teaches patience, so does parenting. Homesteading is a classroom like no other—muddy, humbling, and full of wonder.

It teaches our children what no textbook can: that hard work matters, that life is cyclical, and that family is their safe harbor in a sometimes harsh world.

My hope is that my kids grow up knowing home isn’t merely a place—it’s a legacy we build with care and intention. Whether they keep chickens, plant tomatoes, or simply carry these values forward, I want them to understand where they come from and who they are.

Building Community

And then there’s community—the heartbeat of homesteading and, I believe, our survival as humans.

American society often tells us that strength comes from independence—that we should manage everything ourselves, and outsource what we can’t, because we’re too exhausted to do it all. But that version of “strength” leaves us burned out and disconnected.

True strength doesn’t grow in isolation—it blossoms in interdependence.

Sometimes that means swapping seeds or recipes; other times, it’s checking on a neighbor or being brave enough to ask for help. We were never meant to do this alone.

Lessons from the Past

When I think about how far we’ve drifted from those roots, I can’t help but look back with respect. Our great-grandparents understood community in ways we’ve forgotten.

Their lives weren’t easy—many faced relentless hardship. I once read about children in rural Wisconsin in the 1930s who walked miles to town barefoot, carrying their shoes so they wouldn’t wear them out. They’d put them on only once they reached town, because those shoes had to last—and often be passed down to the next child.

Those stories remind me that while the past wasn’t perfect, it carried wisdom worth keeping. People ate real food, raised resilient children, and looked out for their neighbors. They knew that survival wasn’t just about grit—it was about connection and care.

Planting Hope

In the end, that’s what I want my life—and this blog—to reflect. I want to inspire others to live intentionally, grow their own food, raise their families with love, and reconnect with the people around them.

Because when we nurture the soil, our children, and each other, we’re planting more than gardens—we’re planting hope. And in that hope, we rediscover a simple truth our ancestors never forgot:

We are always stronger together.

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Keeping Time With the Land: How Seasonal Living Can Help You Slow Down

What the seasons can teach us about slowing down, finding balance, and belonging
A version of this essay appears in the January 8, 2026 edition of the Dodge County Pionier.

Ask most people how they measure time today, and the answers sound familiar: alarms, deadlines, color‑coded calendars, the endless scroll of days on a glowing screen. Phone notifications cut across dinner, school schedules slice afternoons into drop‑offs and pickups, and the next bill due date is never far from mind.

Where I live, time follows a different rhythm—guided not by screens but by the soil itself.

My family keeps time by the signals nature gives: sap rising in March, turtles crossing the road in May, fireflies at dusk in June, corn drying into gold by October. A cold north wind can say “November” more clearly than any app. These cycles remind us that time isn’t a race toward exhaustion; it’s a loop—a pattern of effort, rest, and return.

In a world obsessed with productivity, the land offers a quiet lesson: slowing down isn’t falling behind. It’s catching up to what matters.

Winter: the radical act of rest

When the holidays end and snow hushes the fields, stillness takes hold. The world outside the window turns soft and muted, as if someone turned down the volume. Days stretch long. Nights invite reading, conversation, and quiet.

In modern life, that slowness often gets labeled “unproductive.” Inbox counters climb even as the sun sets before dinner. But in the rural calendar, winter is preparation—the season the earth itself uses to heal. Under the frozen top layer, roots are resting, waiting for their cue.

Inside, a different kind of work takes over: soup on the stove, a deck of cards on the table, a cat snoring near the heat register. There’s no badge for this kind of work, but the house feels fuller for it.

Winter offers permission to pause. Even without a farm or a woodstove, anyone can claim a bit of that wisdom: choose a few evenings when nothing is scheduled, let the phone stay in another room, and let the quiet do its work.

Spring: a rehearsal for renewal

Spring announces itself quietly at first—a drip of meltwater from the eaves, the smell of mud, the first bird that sings before sunrise. One morning the snow looks tired; the next, you notice a thin green line where the lawn meets the sidewalk.

We tap trees and plant seeds, acts that serve no instant gratification. The sap runs clear and cold, one slow drop after another into plastic jugs. Seed trays sit under lights, all dirt and hope, for weeks before anything green appears. Yet when syrup warms pancakes or sprouts unfurl in a window box, you can taste reward drawn from patience.

Spring teaches urgency without panic. Ramps, asparagus, morels, and rhubarb arrive in a rush, then slip away as if they were never there. The season reminds us that beginnings are not one-time events but recurring invitations. The world doesn’t ask, “Did you start perfectly?” It asks, “Are you willing to start again?”

You don’t need a sugar bush or a greenhouse to feel this. A single pot of herbs on a balcony, or a commitment to walk the same city block once a week and notice what’s blooming, can turn spring into a ritual rather than a blur.

And after that first rush of green, the land hardly pauses—by July, it’s in full voice.

Summer: where work and joy meet

By midsummer, everything hums. In the afternoon heat, insects buzz like a low electric current in the fields. Lawnmowers start and stop up and down the street. Windows are open, and someone, somewhere, is grilling.

Gardens overflow. Tomatoes split if you don’t pick them in time. Zucchini multiplies on the counter and quietly appears on neighbors’ doorsteps. Kids shriek through sprinklers, leaving wet footprints on hot pavement. Even the air smells different: cut grass, sunscreen, diesel from a tractor on a distant road.

Like the growing season, our best days often mix effort with enjoyment. Summer’s lesson is simple: work and joy are not enemies. They often belong in the same hour. There is satisfaction in going to bed with dirt under your fingernails and the memory of a late sunset still bright in your mind.

The reward for effort can be as close as a ripe berry, a shared picnic in a city park, or a tired, happy body at the end of a long, light-filled day.

Autumn: gratitude and gathering

Autumn softens the light and sharpens the air. Mornings carry that first hint of frost, and you can see your breath if you step outside before the sun gets serious. Leaves turn from green to gold and red, then crunch underfoot in the driveway.

The season’s abundance—pumpkins on porches, apples piled in crates, shelves lined with jars and loaves—reminds us how much depends on cooperation: between people, earth, and time. No one person makes a harvest alone. There are seed savers, farm workers, truck drivers, grocers, and cooks all woven into the meal.

Gratitude, in this season, isn’t just a word reserved for a single holiday. It’s the habit of looking at an ordinary table—soup, bread, a piece of fruit—and seeing the many hands and seasons that brought it there.

Even in an apartment, autumn can become a practice of gathering: inviting friends over for a simple pot of chili, walking through a park under changing trees, or taking five extra minutes to watch the early dark settle in instead of rushing past it.

What circles can teach a linear world

When winter returns, it’s easy to see it as a setback: dark, cold, the end of something. But the more closely the seasons are watched, the clearer it becomes that time does not move in a straight line. It hums in a circle.

Each season brings another chance to begin again—not by doing more, but by noticing more. The calendar on the wall may march from one square to the next, but the world outside repeats its old, trustworthy patterns: thaw, bloom, heat, harvest, rest.

Wherever you live—city or countryside—you can keep time with the land in your own way. Let January be a little slower. Let spring mean at least one meal built around what is fresh where you are. Let summer include a night spent outdoors until it’s fully dark. Let autumn carry a moment of thanks, even if it’s just whispered over a sink full of dishes.

The land has never hurried. It always arrives where it should. Maybe we can too, if we’re willing to step out of the race now and then and walk in circles for a while instead.

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Homestead Longevity Habits: Growing Food, Raising Kids, Real Life

What are your thoughts on the concept of living a very long life?

Do you want to live to 100—or just live well until 98, still gathering eggs with grandkids?

I don’t know if I’ll get there, but my great-grandfather did, according to my Dad. He was lucid and mobile nearly to the end. In my mid-30s, I’m stacking practical habits on our homestead to increase those odds: growing food, raising kids, building community.

My Daily Longevity Playbook
Stress reduction starts by cuddling with my kids—reading to them works better than any app.

I aim for a half-hour outside daily, walking our land or talking to friends on the phone. Friendships faded for years after college, but now I’m rebuilding. I pursue projects with neighbors, a monthly book club I love (the reading! the conversations!), and a local women’s business group. These are the bonds that science says add years to your life.

Food comes mostly from our backyard or my hands. Kneading bread with kids’ sticky fingers. Simmering soups from last week’s harvest. My toddler daughter prefers kitchen chaos—stirring, measuring—over outdoor chores (though she squeals for eggs). These moments teach more than nutrition.

Movement stays simple. Fifteen minutes most mornings. Hauling feed sacks, chasing little legs—it builds bones that last.

We’re saving more than 15% now—no desks at 90. Self-reliance cuts costs. Growing our own feeds the plan.

Parenting builds the deepest roots. Our six-year-old folds laundry (grumbling). Toddler “helps” everywhere. These shared chores create memories stronger than birthday cards decades from now.

Marriage anchors everything. My husband and I have cultivated collaboration—shared goals, complementary strengths. He lifts heavy, builds systems. I tend garden rhythms, kid routines. This divides loads, multiplies joy, limits resentment. Longevity for two definitely beats going it alone.

Sleep: The Hardest Reset
Pre-kids, unbroken sleep was default. Now? Night wakings, early risers, worry-spinning mind. Relearning happens slowly: early dinners, screen-free evenings, herbal tea. One solid night compounds.

What 98 Years Taught Me
My dad remembers Great-Grandpa’s callused hands still driving around at 95, pipe smoke clinging to his flannel. No protocols—just simple food, steady movement, people who mattered. That’s my blueprint.

I see myself at 90 on our porch: grandkids gathering eggs, husband rocking nearby, son and daughter helping us, friends sharing harvest soup. That picture fuels every dirt-caked morning.

The Homestead Longevity Formula
Growing food, raising kids, building community—these practices stack together, increasing the odds of a long life according to science. Whole foods fight inflammation, movement builds resilience, relationships protect telomeres. I don’t know if I’ll reach 98, but I’m doing what I can to tilt the scales. Truth hits hardest when flour dusts my daughter’s nose or my husband and I split evening chores by instinct.

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What Could I Do Differently? Homesteading, Kids Chores, and Friend Connections

What could you do differently?

I catch myself asking this while scrubbing potatoes at the sink, weeding garden rows, or picking up blocks for the tenth time.

On our homestead, the work never stops. But lately, I’ve seen a few clear ways to shift — not for perfection, but for more peace, presence, and real connection with the people who matter most.

Slow My Yes. Guard My Rest.
Here’s one big change: I’d say yes more slowly. And treat rest like a non-negotiable chore.

Extra commitments sneak in easily — kid activities, one more property project, favors for friends. They’re good things. Until they blur our days into exhaustion.

Rest isn’t optional. It’s fuel.

What that looks like for us:
– One protected family evening weekly. No plans. No screens.
– A slower morning after big days, even if dishes wait.
– Sometimes my best “yes” is actually no — leaving margin for what refills us.

Pull the Kids Closer (Mess and All)
When I’m tired, my instinct is “just do it myself.” That’s changing.

We’ve asked our six-year-old to help clean and put clothes away. He sighs. Drags his feet through the laundry pile. Grumbles. But he does it. And when he does, my load lightens. We talk about his day while he folds socks and I straighten up the living room. We laugh when a shirt lands inside-out.

Kids helping isn’t efficient. It’s essential.

Those small chores build something bigger: his sense of belonging, our family rhythm, moments to actually connect instead of just managing the house around him.

Make Space for Neighbors
Right now, we’re looking for more neighbor friends — the kind who stop by with garden produce or help with a project. Lately, I’ve been carving out time for one friend, helping her keep up with a winter garden. We talk animals, plot cold frames, and hope for a game night soon under blankets with hot cocoa.

That’s the kind of margin I want more of. Not just for projects, but people. The garden beds matter. But so do late talks about goats versus chickens, shared labor on a neighbor’s shed, or laughter over cards with new friends nearby.

Real community doesn’t form on a schedule. It grows.

What I could do differently: protect one flexible afternoon weekly for whoever shows up — the neighbor with a question about crop rotation, or someone new walking up the drive. Our homestead thrives when the people around it do, too.

The Change That Stays
These shifts aren’t a checklist to conquer. They’re small turns toward what matters:

– Saying yes slower.
– Resting on purpose.
– Inviting kids into real chores like cleaning and clothes.
– Making room for neighbors, not just garden rows.

The weeds won’t stop growing. The laundry won’t vanish. But with these changes, our home could become what I picture most:

A place where garden beds,
kids folding tiny clothes,
and neighbors’ boots on the porch
all thrive side by side.

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We’re Stronger Together: Homesteading, Family, and the Power of a Village

If you had a freeway billboard, what would it say?

“Real life — the good kind — isn’t a solo project. It’s meant to be shared.”

If I Had a Freeway Billboard, It Would Say:
“We’re Stronger Together.”
Simple. Short. True.

That phrase might only take a second to read, but it’s something I’ve come to believe deeply over time. Homesteading, parenting, and everyday life keep reminding me that none of us truly thrive in isolation. We can’t — and we’re not meant to.

The Myth of “Doing It All”
I’ve tried to “do it all” before. Maybe you have, too.

I remember one quiet afternoon watching our toddler play alone in the wide stretch of our backyard. Sunlight shone on his light blonde hair. Chickens were clucking somewhere behind him. The smell of wet grass lingered after the rain. My husband and I had been talking about having another child, but the thought brought a flood of questions. Could we manage it all — raising little ones, keeping the homestead going, working — without losing our minds or each other?

That moment planted a seed. I didn’t know it then, but it would change how we lived. Even though we were proud of our self-sufficiency, trying to do everything alone left us stretched thin and quietly disconnected.

Real life — the good kind — isn’t a solo project. It’s meant to be shared.

In the four years since that afternoon, so much has changed. We moved closer to family and, not long after, welcomed our daughter — another beautiful whirlwind of toddler energy. Now we have more of a village to help raise her. And in turn, we can show up for others.

That web of giving and receiving has made all the difference. It’s turned our days into something more sustainable, more joyful, and far more connected.

Why “Together” Matters
It’s easy to imagine strength as something proven alone. But real strength is interwoven — built through connection, trust, and shared effort.

It’s the kind that shows up when neighbors help fix our house, when friends drop off soup unasked, or when laughter spills out during chores that would otherwise feel endless.

On the homestead, togetherness looks like shared harvests and muddy boots side by side. The garden gets weeded faster when more than one person is pulling. The work lightens, and the smiles come easier.

That’s the kind of strength that fills the spaces where frustration or loneliness might otherwise take root.

And that same truth guides the way we’re raising our kids.

Building “Together” at Home
In our family, we talk a lot about contributing to the household — because this home’s success belongs to all of us.

Since I started giving our six-year-old a daily job, he’s made it clear he doesn’t always love it. He sighs, he drags his feet, and he grumbles his way through — but he does it.

And afterward, something shifts. My load feels lighter, our days run smoother, and I have more time to simply be with him — to laugh, to listen, to connect.

The lesson is simple but powerful: we build strength, resilience, and belonging not by doing everything ourselves, but by doing our part together.

What That Billboard Really Means
So if someone sped past my billboard and read the words “We’re stronger together,” I’d hope it would land right when they needed it most — in a moment of overwhelm, or when they’re trying to carry too much alone.

Because strength doesn’t have to mean solitude. Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is reach out a hand — or take one that’s being offered.

After all, the strongest gardens — like families — grow best when many hands tend them.

And that truth keeps my feet steady, season after season.

We’re stronger. Together.

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Past Lessons and Future Dreams: Learning, Growing, and Moving Forward

Do you spend more time thinking about the future or the past? Why?

They say hindsight is 20/20, but I think it’s more like a mirror — one that reflects both who we were and who we’re becoming. And the future? That’s the canvas we’re still painting, brush in hand, deciding what colors come next.

I spend time with both — the past and the future — but if I had to choose, I’d say I think about the future more. Still, the two aren’t separate for me. The past is where the learning happens, and the future is where I try to put that learning into action.

Learning from the Past
When I think about the past, it’s rarely about nostalgia. More often, it’s replaying moments that didn’t go quite right — conversations I wish I’d handled with more patience or insight. I tend to notice small things, especially how the other person responded.

Did they look away halfway through? Did their shoulders drop, or did their voice tighten? Did they frown — or cross their arms, or become defensive? Those reactions stay with me long after the conversation ends. They’re like clues that help me understand the power of tone, timing, and empathy.

It’s not that I’m trying to critique every interaction — I’m trying to learn from them. Reflection, for me, has become a quiet sort of self-check. I don’t want to get stuck regretting old exchanges, but I do want to notice patterns: when I get defensive, when I rush my words, when I stop truly listening.

Sometimes, it feels like flipping through a small mental scrapbook of lessons — not to linger on the pictures, but to trace the edges and think, How can I handle this better next time?

Dreaming Toward the Future
When my mind turns toward the future, everything feels brighter, warmer, and more open. I think about my family — how our children might grow, who they’ll become, and what kinds of people they’ll bring into their own lives. I think about my husband, and how I hope we’ll still laugh together, still spend weekends side by side, still find joy in the simple rhythm of our days.

I imagine our home, our garden, the hum of a peaceful homestead alive with everyday sounds: wind in the trees, chickens clucking, maybe the buzz of bees on summer afternoons. Sometimes I picture our future selves sitting on the porch after a long day’s work, hands tired but hearts full, reflecting on the life we built together.

Those dreams give me motivation. They remind me that the choices I make now — how I spend my time, how I treat people, how I speak and respond — are shaping the world I’m headed toward. Thinking about the future helps me see daily life not as a checklist, but as a foundation. Every habit or conversation plants a seed for what’s still to come.

Using the Past to Benefit the Future
Even my backward glances at the past carry a forward focus. When I catch myself remembering a tense moment or an awkward pause, I use it as a reminder: next time, pause longer. Listen more carefully. Stay soft even when the other person isn’t.

Learning from the past gives me tools; imagining the future gives me energy. The two often work hand in hand — one guiding, the other driving.

Balancing Reflection and Hope
If I had to choose between thinking about the past or the future, I’d still say the future wins. But really, they’re part of the same equation. The past reminds me where I’ve been; the future invites me to grow beyond it.

To me, this process is a lot like gardening. Each season leaves its mark — the crops that thrived, the ones that failed, the weeds you didn’t pull soon enough. But when you plant again, you do it with all that knowledge quietly tucked into your hands. You trust that what you’ve learned will make next season stronger.

That’s how I try to live — learning gently, dreaming boldly, and remembering that both reflection and hope have their place in growth.

Do you find yourself thinking more about the past or the future these days?

When you look back, do your reflections inspire you to move forward differently? I’d love to hear how you balance the two — share your thoughts in the comments below.

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Finding Balance and Patience: My Biggest Everyday Challenges

What are your biggest challenges?

You’d think after all this time, I’d have learned how to juggle it all—but balance always seems to slip through my fingers. The truth is, my biggest challenges aren’t bold or dramatic. They’re quiet, persistent companions that live in the corners of everyday life.

One of my greatest challenges is balance—finding a rhythm between work, motherhood, and the slower life I want to live. I work outside the home as well as inside it, which means my days are often split between spreadsheets and snack times, meetings and meals. Some mornings, I leave a work call only to find myself wiping peanut butter off the counter or rescuing a half-folded load of laundry. In those moments, I’m reminded that both roles matter—and that balance isn’t about perfection, but about presence.

A close cousin to balance is learning to give myself grace in the in-between. As a parent and partner, I want to show up patient and calm. As a person, I still fall short plenty of days. Some nights, after the kids are asleep, I replay all the times I snapped or hurried through a moment that deserved more. But I’m learning that gentle doesn’t mean flawless—it means pausing, forgiving, and trying again the next morning.

Patience is something I’ve been working on my whole life, and it remains one of my biggest ongoing challenges. It’s also one of my main focuses for this new year—learning not just to wait, but to wait well. Whether it’s slowing down enough to listen to my kids tell the same story for the third time or giving myself permission to move at my own pace, patience feels like both a discipline and a kindness I keep coming back to.

Perhaps the hardest to shake is mental clutter—that constant background hum of to-do lists, choices, and invisible labor. On my best days, homesteading helps quiet it all. There’s something steadying about digging my hands into the soil, hanging laundry in the sun, or collecting eggs in the stillness of early morning. Those small tasks return me to the present. They whisper that the work of life isn’t about getting everything done, but about doing the next loving thing.

My biggest challenges don’t come in waves—they come in moments. They live in ordinary pauses between rushing and resting, striving and savoring, criticizing and forgiving. And that’s where I’ve learned the most growth hides: not in conquering big mountains, but in walking the same quiet hills again and again until they no longer feel so steep.

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January 1, 2026

When Nostalgia Sneaks In: A Journey Through Music, Memories, and Meaning

What makes you feel nostalgic?

You never expect it—the way a few chords of a song or the smell of something sizzling in the kitchen can throw open a door straight into your past. Nostalgia sneaks in quietly like that. One moment, I’m focused on the day in front of me, and the next, I’m somewhere else entirely—caught between who I was and who I’ve become.

The Sound of Self-Discovery
For me, music is the quickest time machine. Just a few seconds of a song, and I’m back in the place where it first meant something.

When “Fix You” by Coldplay plays, I’m no longer folding laundry or driving home—I’m back in my college dorm room, freshman year. The lights were harsh, the walls thin, and life felt uncertain in that way it only does when you’re eighteen and still finding your place in the world. I’d wait for my roommate to leave, turn up the volume, and sing at the top of my lungs—no audience, no expectations, just a girl trying to make peace with herself, one verse at a time.

A Taste of Freedom
A few years later, life expanded far beyond that dorm room. When I taste pupusas, I’m taken back to my first time traveling internationally—a trip to San Salvador where I turned twenty-one. That birthday was wrapped in humidity, adventure, and the quiet thrill of doing something new and a little bit scary.

I remember sitting in a small open-air restaurant, watching the cook press pupusas by hand—pinto beans and cheese sealed inside dough, sizzling on the griddle. The first bite was simple but unforgettable: chewy, salty, rich, and alive with flavor. Maybe it tasted like freedom.

Or maybe it just marked the moment I realized how big the world really was.

Even now, I still try to recreate them at home. My husband doesn’t quite share the same fascination. They never taste exactly like they did that day. For me, they carry the rush of youth and discovery and the quiet joy of realizing how travel can stretch your sense of home.

A Song for the Road Ahead
Years later, nostalgia found me again. It was during a bittersweet season of change. It was wrapped in the opening chords of “Helplessness Blues” by Fleet Foxes. I can still see it clearly. Our Subaru Crosstrek was packed with the last of our things as we left what I used to call our “dream home”.

My husband drove ahead in another vehicle. I followed behind, six months pregnant with our daughter. Our three-year-old son was strapped into his car seat. He watched out the window, humming softly. The sky was that early-summer color somewhere between gray and blue. It was the kind that feels like an ellipsis instead of a period.

As we drove, I sang along for my son, voice steady, heart full. We’d listened to Fleet Foxes so often that summer. He had chosen his own favorite song, “Quiet Houses.” He adorably called it “the Meh-me-gah song.” That tiny mispronunciation still makes me smile. It’s one of those details you don’t realize will someday become its own memory.

If “Fix You” reminds me who I was becoming, “Helplessness Blues” reminds me how far I’d come and how much life can change when you’re not looking.

Laughter That Lasts
And then there’s “Jump Around.” That one doesn’t carry reflection—it’s pure, unfiltered joy. It takes me straight back to Camp Randall Stadium, surrounded by thousands of college students in a sea of red and white. We jumped in unison until the stands shook beneath our feet. Later, it made its way into every wedding of my college friends—ties loosened, heels kicked off, laughter spilling loud and unrestrained.

Every time that song comes on, I catch a glimpse of all those versions of me—young, hopeful, tired, happy—and somehow, they all still belong to each other.

Memory You Can Taste and Hear
Music and food both have that power—to transport, to remind, to reawaken. Each song and flavor brings back a different version of who I’ve been, like pages from a well-loved journal I never meant to write but somehow did through living.

Nostalgia reminds me that our lives are stitched together by these small, unforgettable moments—songs, tastes, and places that once felt ordinary but now glow quietly in memory. It isn’t just remembering; it’s re-feeling. Every sensory spark reveals how much of us we carry forward, even without realizing it.

Maybe that’s what nostalgia really is—not a longing for the past, but a gentle reminder that who we were still lives within who we are. And when it sneaks up on me, I don’t resist it. I just pause, smile, and let the moment wash over me—one note, one flavor, one heartbeat at a time.

What sparks nostalgia for you? A song, a recipe, a smell you can’t forget? I’d love to hear what brings your favorite memories rushing back—share your story in the comments below.

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Relationships That Shape Growth: Lessons from Family, Friends, and Challenges

What relationships have a positive impact on you?

Relationships are like mirrors and anchors at the same time—some show who you are, others steady who you’re becoming. In this season of reflection, I realize how the “ordinary” people in my daily life quietly shape my growth. They influence my mental health and even my dreams. These bonds aren’t dramatic or headline-worthy; they’re the steady threads weaving a stronger me.

The Foundation: My Partner
My relationship with my husband forms the bedrock. He doesn’t just agree with me; he gently challenges my assumptions and expands how I see the world. When life feels heavy, he brings calm, humor, and problem-solving that reminds me I’m not carrying everything alone.

Everyday Teachers: My Children
My children root me in the present, pulling me from overthinking. They spark curiosity—asking endless questions, noticing tiny details, finding joy in the ordinary. Parenting stretches my patience and teaches me to slow down, breathe, and model emotional regulation they can carry forward.

Roots and Reflection: Parents and Sisters
My parents embody quiet generosity and long-term commitment. They show up, help, and give without keeping score—a living lesson in love in action. My sisters bring laughter and insight. We revisit our childhood, name its lasting imprints, and still share honest, silly, vulnerable moments safely.

Steadiness and Encouragement: In-Laws and Friends
My in-laws reveal family’s deeper layers—loving children wholeheartedly and offering dependable presence. That reliability steadies chaotic seasons. Friends urge me forward, saying, “Share that passion.” They cheer as I shape writing, parenting insights, and homesteading into gifts for others.

Even the Hard Ones: Lessons from Tension
Even draining dynamics now serve growth. They highlight where boundaries must firm up and remind me not everyone merits deep access to my inner world. The shift: observe and learn without repeated hurt, protecting energy with compassion for all involved.

These relationships—supportive, challenging, or tough—collectively sculpt who I’m becoming. I nurture love, honesty, and respect while curbing harm. In doing so, my life mirrors the connections I hope to pass to my children.

Now it’s your turn. What’s one relationship shaping your growth right now?

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The Night After Christmas and the Family Flu

Sometimes the most memorable Christmases aren’t the picture-perfect ones, but the years when everything falls apart and love holds things together anyway. This is the story of the year the flu came to visit right after Christmas—and how crackers, Gatorade, and a lot of teamwork got us through.

’Twas the night after Christmas, all peaceful and deep,
Our stockings hung empty, the house fast asleep.
The lights softly shimmered, the hearth gave a sigh,
While snow whispered secrets to stars in the sky.

’Round midnight it started—a twinge and a pain,
A twist in my stomach I couldn’t explain.
I tiptoed off slowly, the floorboards all still,
I said to my husband, “I think I might be ill.”

And I wasn’t alone—two soft feet drew near,
My daughter behind me soon made herself clear.
She followed and whimpered, her cries urgent, strong—
She already knew that something was wrong.

“Oh, sweetheart,” I whispered, though queasy and gray,
“We’re in this together—it’s starting today.”
Her little face wet, her sobs catching fast,
I knew this long night would be sure to pass.

Two more hours rolled by, and then, half past four,
My son padded in through the barely cracked door.
Still sleepy but worried, he frowned, half-convinced,
“Is everyone sick now?”—and then we all winced.

By morning, our room was a whirlwind of care—
Blankets and towels were strewn everywhere.
The tree in the corner still twinkled on cue,
While a water cup army assembled in view.

My husband, though sleepless, laced boots with intent,
Murmured, “Crackers and Gatorade,” and then off he went.
He came back exhausted but noble and true,
His face wind-bitten, but his heart shining through.

Later, with laughter he told me with glee,
The noises I made (embarrassing me!).
Not cruelly, of course—just the way that love leans,
Finding small humor in less-than-grand scenes.

Meanwhile our daughter, though fevered and small,
Was strangely composed through the worst of it all.
So dainty, so sweet in her sickly haze,
Even illness can’t quite dent a toddler’s ways.

And when things got rougher, we had helping hands near—
Grandma and Grandpa, steadfast and dear.
They took on our laundry, our chaos, our chores,
Returning it folded with love through the doors.

Our Black Cat peeked in from the kitchen’s safe line,
Surveying the scene with a gaze most divine.
He blinked, turned around with his usual grace,
And decided, “I’ll check on them later—just in case.”

The day after Christmas was quiet and slow,
With naps and faint smiles in the furnace’s glow.
Two days gone by, and though fevers still nipped,
We were mostly upright, though thoroughly whipped.

By three days post-Christmas, we’d climbed to a cheer—
About eighty percent, though not quite in the clear.
An ache here, a groan and a bit of fatigue,
But hope had returned to the flu-ridden league.

We smiled through the mess, the trials and dread,
Through crackers and Gatorade close to each bed.
It wasn’t the Christmas of bright, shining scenes,
But it was real love—somewhere in between.

So here’s to the chaos that family life knows,
The laughter that follows wherever it goes.
For even when plans fall wildly askew,
We’re rich in the stories that see us all through.

Have you ever had a holiday completely derailed by sickness, weather, or plans gone sideways? Share your story in the comments—I promise we’ll be over here laughing (and sympathizing) with you.

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