Category: Personal Growth

  • When Toddler Dishes Taught This Working Mom to Feel Loved

    Can you share a positive example of where you’ve felt loved?

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    Ever feel like love keeps reaching for you, but some old instinct makes you duck away?

    That’s been my story for most of my life, a quiet belief that something was fundamentally wrong with me—something that disqualified me from being truly, deeply loved. When people went out of their way with kindness, whether it was a thoughtful gesture or words meant to affirm me, I found myself almost unable to bear it. I’d deflect with a joke, change the subject, or pull back to what felt like a safer distance, convincing myself I didn’t really need anyone after all. And yet, from that very distance, I’d ache and complain that no one truly cared.

    Where the Pattern Began
    Looking back, I can trace much of this to childhood on our Wisconsin dairy farm. Farming carried relentless stress—long days in the fields, milking cows, haying season pressures that stretched my parents thin. The farm always came first, and while they poured everything into keeping it alive, we six girls learned to need less, do more, and stay out of the way. We never needed words to feel the pressure, but children read rooms like seismographs, absorbing every sigh, every moment of bone-deep tiredness. I internalized that needing anything made me a burden. So I shrank myself: good student, low-maintenance helper, hyper-independent. Better to be useful than to be needy.

    That pattern wove into adulthood. My love language became acts of service—cooking, cleaning, organizing, stepping in quietly. It became both how I loved and my shield. Always doing meant never done for, staying safely in control as the helper, never the helped.

    When My Children Started to Change Everything
    Motherhood began unraveling this through hundreds of small moments. When my babies nestled against me, their complete trust felt like a start. But deeper change came as they grew, each finding ways to love me back through acts of service—their tiny mirror of what I’d modeled for them.

    My two-year-old adores doing the dishes. She drags a chair to the sink, climbs up purposefully, rag in hand, and tackles plastic bowls and spoons. Counters grow wetter, floor becomes a puddle, but her earnest eyes shine with pride. The old me wants to take over. Instead, I hand her another bowl and say softly, “You’re such a good helper. Thank you.”

    My six-year-old is mastering the art of folding laundry. When our daughter arrived, survival mode hit hard. For a while it was simply faster to do everything ourselves. Now that we’re coming out of that season, we’re intentionally pulling him into family contributions, even though it takes more effort and patience from us. He folds t-shirts into neat squares, pairs up socks as best he can. Sometimes I open my drawer to discover one of dad’s underwear tucked in with my things. I gently correct him as I place it in dad’s drawer. Now he proudly asks first, “Mom, is this yours or Dad’s?” Him learning to be involved feels worth it for his well-being in the long run.

    Then there are the rocks. He loves bringing me stones that he finds: smooth pebbles, bits of quartz, sometimes just muddy treasures he knows I’ll appreciate. As an environmental professional with a geology background, his rocks land right in the center of my heart. He’ll run up, eyes shining, holding out his find: “Mom, I found this special rock just for you!” I take time to study each one with him, turning it over in my hands before placing it in this clear container where his rock collection resides.

    The Moment Love Finally Landed
    These imperfect acts were their love language, mirroring mine. Rejecting them would mean rejecting their hearts. So I’m practicing receiving: drying toddler plates, keeping laundry stacks as-is, treasuring every rock.

    One overwhelmed day, I found my two-year-old at the sink, surrounded by suds and her pile of “clean” bowls. Water dripped from her elbows, face earnest, clearly seeing my exhaustion. No words needed—her effort said, “Mommy’s tired. I’m helping.”

    That cracked me open. All my life avoiding burdenhood, here was my toddler seeing me and choosing to lighten my load anyway.

    The Homesteading Lesson Love Teaches
    Love arrived not as overwhelming force, but through soggy dishes, earnest laundry folds, rocks gathered for Mommy—humble acts from small hands noticing my need. My lived-in home holds these lessons.

    My children teach me love shows in ordinary service. When I receive without fixing, I rewrite “burden” as “belonging.” They prove I’m not too much—I’m exactly right for their help, their effort, their love. And teaching my son to contribute builds his confidence for life ahead.


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    Short Break for Family & Syrup Season

    Hey friends, quick update from the homestead—I’m taking a short break from blogging to focus on family right now. Life with kids, maple syruping season in full swing, and all the usual chaos needs my full attention. I’d rather share quality stories and insights when I’m back, so I’ll be here soon. Thanks for understanding!

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  • Why I Chose Homesteading

    Why I Chose Homesteading

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    I turn 36 this week, and it feels like as good a time as any to tell you who I am.

    I am

    • a wife
    • a working mother of 2 beautiful children
    • an environmental professional
    • a homesteader
    • a gardener
    • a reader
    • an animal caretaker
    • an aspiring writer (the blog you’re reading is me practicing)
    • an amateur historian
    • a perfectionist
    • a ruminator
    • a friend
    • a daughter
    • a sister

    Growing Up on a Wisconsin Dairy Farm
    I grew up on a family dairy farm in Southeastern Wisconsin during the 1990s—a tough decade when small operations were disappearing fast.

    Our farm had a 60-cow herd through years of economic stress. In 2001, we sold the herd and rented the land to a larger operation. By then, my five older sisters had mostly moved on. My parents took “city jobs”—Ma at the local grocery store, Dad first as a farmhand, then for a local drilling company. They bought beef cattle for me to raise through my teen years.

    The Teenage Rebel Who Wanted Out
    Before my dad took over from his father, farmers traveled no more than a mile to access all their land. By the time he changed careers 25 years later, some had to drive an hour or more to reach the farthest corners of their acreage. The world I grew up in was already shifting fast beneath my feet.

    But as a teenager, I couldn’t have cared less about the cattle I was entrusted with. Farming felt pointless. I was determined to “get out of Dodge County” and go to college in nearby Madison. Books came easily to me, and I wore that like armor. I had a chip on my shoulder—I thought I was smarter than the farm life, better than staying put, that I had everything figured out.

    Pride, Pain, and Coming Back to Earth
    Pride comes before a fall, as they say. I never had one dramatic crash, but I had low moments that humbled me.

    When I was 17, I sustained serious burn injuries on my arms and chest. I received skin grafts on my arms. I spent a long season wrestling with shame and the fact that I was marked by scars. When I finally reached Madison—the dream I’d chased—I felt small next to high achievers who hadn’t come from farms and had flawless skin.

    Even after landing a job as an environmental professional, I stood in rooms feeling inadequate beside people who seemed to know so much more. It took years to accept I wasn’t the smartest person in the room—but I still had something valuable to offer.

    Love, Long Courtship, and Hotel-Hopping 20s
    I started dating my now-husband at 19. We’d known each other longer, but that’s when our story began. He didn’t grow up on a farm but found agriculture fascinating. He thought it was neat that I’d spent my childhood around cows, even as I ran away from that identity.

    After a long courtship, we married when I was 27. We loved each other deeply, but finding our rhythm took time. Through trial and error, we landed on shared ground: children, homesteading, and country living.

    All along, I’d quietly loved making things from scratch, even if I didn’t call it homesteading. Freshman year of college, I made pizza entirely from scratch (except the cheese). It took three times longer than it should have. I ruined zucchini bread by confusing tablespoons for teaspoons of salt. Junior year, I bought a crockpot (affiliate link) that made my dorm floor jealous of the dinner smells wafting from my room.

    Motherhood Opened My Eyes
    I graduated grad school at 24 and we moved near Green Bay for my job. For the next six years—my freewheeling late 20s—we traveled heavily—for work and fun—with each other, family, and friends. Hotels became our second home. It was a wonderful season of freedom I hated to see end.

    Then I had my son just before turning 30. Motherhood was like someone handing me color television after a lifetime of black-and-white. The challenges were endless—physical, emotional, exhausting. But when he smiled and grabbed my finger with his tiny, chunky hand, everything faded. I wanted to be better for him.

    That first year coincided with Covid. No village. Husband working a lot. Our beautiful house on 18 acres of “dream land” suddenly felt hollow. Land doesn’t raise children. Pride in property lines doesn’t fill the gaps. As we talked about baby number two, we made a deliberate choice: we moved back to our hometown near Mayville, Wisconsin.

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    Choosing This Life Freely
    I watched our family navigate those farm changes—not out of obligation, but circumstance. Now I’m choosing this life freely. We’re gardening, raising chickens, baking bread, and raising kids.

    The girl who couldn’t wait to escape Dodge County returned on her own terms. At 36, I’m still learning I don’t need to be the smartest person in the room—just someone who shows up, learns, and shares.

    This blog is me doing that. Someone standing in the middle of her story. Rooted, growing, still in progress.

    Practical Homesteading: growing food, raising kids, building community.


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    My Middle Name: Marjorie

    My middle name is Marjorie, sharing a birthday with The Simpsons premiere (handy icebreaker, though nobody calls me Marge). Marjorie honors my late grandmother. We lived 30 miles apart, seeing her at Christmas where I’d play their electric piano while she and her jovial second husband laughed together. She brought knick-knacks from trips for us six granddaughters—a…

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  • Why Seahorses Are My Favorite Animal (Not Chickens!)

    Why Seahorses Are My Favorite Animal (Not Chickens!)

    What is your favorite animal?

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    I’m going off script here. You’d expect a homestead star from a homestead girly like me—like the clever pigs rearranging their shelter to face the sun or chickens pecking frogs and toes with equal fervor. I cherish those animals. They shape our daily lessons.

    Yet today, I’m choosing the seahorse. I’ve never kept one. It serves no farm purpose. But that’s its magic—it prompts reflection on family roles from an ocean’s distance.

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    What fascinates me is its gentle role reversal. The female deposits eggs, but the male tucks them into his pouch, nurtures them, and births the young. This challenges “men provide, women nurture.” It models shared responsibility where both partners stay strong, gentle, and committed.

    That’s not just ocean poetry—it’s our story since returning to our hometown. My husband and I share caretaking duties seamlessly. He minds the children during my work calls (sometimes after I paced with our baby in this baby carrier (affiliate link). No toy chaos waits behind—hard-won after frank talks that tested us both. He tends evening chicken feeds amid dusty clucks while I plan garden rows, much like seahorses exchanging roles beneath the waves.

    Caregiving thrives on that flexibility. It’s the yin-yang balance of roles shifting as needed—under ocean depths where seahorses trade pouches and responsibilities, or right here in the farmyard dust where my husband and I pass the load back and forth. Whether it’s him stepping up with the kids so I can wrap a call, or me tackling garden rows while he handles the coop, this give-and-take nurtures what endures: a family that bends without breaking.


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    Feathers, Frogs, and Family: Lessons from Our Chickens

    What are your favorite animals? I remember he day our delivery person lingered just to pet a chicken. It marked a quiet but unforgettable connection between humans and animals in our lives. That black hen with golden feathers wasn’t just beautiful. She was a symbol of the surprising personalities and stories hidden in every farm…

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    Unmuted: Laughing Together at Last

    I never expected to feel this nervous just walking into a donut shop. The bell above the door chimed softly, and I paused—heart rattling, palms damp against my blue Yeti water bottle. The air was thick with sugar and dough, but I wasn’t here for pastries. I was listening for a voice I’d only ever…

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  • How Teams + Chickens Power My Work-from-Home Mom Life

    How Teams + Chickens Power My Work-from-Home Mom Life

    In what ways do you communicate online?

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    Online communication wraps my days like an old quilt—patched from COVID chaos into something warm and steady, threading work demands with homestead heart.

    Work: Coworkers Made It Possible
    Picture March 2020: lockdown just hit, my 4-month-old screaming through a call with all my coworkers, less than a week into daycare closures. A kind voice chimed in—”Hey, there’s a mute button”—a small grace that eased my overwhelm and turned chaos into control.

    I wouldn’t have built this virtual career stride without my amazing coworkers who saw me through. That moment etched Teams mastery into me: nailing the mute through fussy spells while pacing in this baby carrier (affiliate link), leaning on chat pings for quick collaboration, sharing OneDrive links for big files without inbox jams from my stand-up desk (affiliate link), and email for the decisions that stick.

    Now both kids know to hush during calls—proof of growth from raw survival to steady rhythm, all thanks to that team support.

    Personal: The Good Stuff We Share
    You know how Google Calendar just saves us? Color-coded birthdays popping up for relatives, schedule nudges so nothing falls through the cracks. Facebook, though—that’s our family laugh album. Me posting those glorious flat “nailed it” pancakes with a giggle, plus coop fixes glowing in sunset light. Email is for the heartfelt catch-ups that stick with you. It’s all that unpolished joy keeping far-flung friends and family right there with us, cheering the wins through the quiet stretches .

    Homestead Recharge
    Those personal connections keep me going, but after the workday’s emotional drain—especially tough Teams calls and tough reports—it’s the chickens that truly reset me.

    I slip out to the run where hens cluck hello amid dust baths. Their simple rhythm grounds me in why I grind. It’s a feathered reset that clears my head for garden plots ahead. Those quiet moments remind me this online hustle fuels real soil and seeds. It’s where virtual threads meet tangible roots, weaving work grit into family purpose one contented cluck at a time .


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    From Nerves to Connection: Lessons from a Lifetime of Public Speaking

    Have you ever performed on stage or given a speech? My heartbeat quickened as the announcer called my name, each syllable echoing through the microphone. Applause filled the conference hall as I walked toward the podium, my shoes tapping softly against the floor. The room smelled faintly of coffee and stale donuts—a familiar comfort for…

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    The Farmstead Paradox: How Technology Frees Us and Challenges Us

    What technology would you be better off without, why? What if I unplugged everything—just one day—and watched my farmstead world grind back to its raw roots? Sun crests the barn at 5:45 am. No alarm jolts me; instinct pulls me up. We feed the animals, hauling water, grinding feed. We dress kids by fading lantern…

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    Unmuted: Laughing Together at Last

    I never expected to feel this nervous just walking into a donut shop. The bell above the door chimed softly, and I paused—heart rattling, palms damp against my blue Yeti water bottle. The air was thick with sugar and dough, but I wasn’t here for pastries. I was listening for a voice I’d only ever…

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  • Signed House Contract at Used Car Lot-On Our Honeymoon Trip to Alaska

    Signed House Contract at Used Car Lot-On Our Honeymoon Trip to Alaska

    Think back on your most memorable road trip.

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    We signed a house contract at a used car lot—on our honeymoon road trip to Alaska.

    My husband and I postponed our honeymoon for a year because we both dreamed of driving from Wisconsin to Alaska. At first, we planned to fly, but then he asked why we didn’t look up the driving logistics. I did, and it came out to about 60 continuous hours on the road.

    “That doesn’t seem too bad,” I thought.

    So we began planning a three-week road trip for June 2018. We bought a new Subaru Crosstrek, figured out the perfect gear and packing technique, and anxiously counted down the days.

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    The House That Hijacked Our Honeymoon
    What we didn’t plan for happened the day before we left. We toured a beautiful house and property that was for sale by owner. We were actively looking, and this one appeared on the market that Monday. The day before departure, we put in an offer. The next morning, already packed and driving down the highway, we got the call: they accepted it. Then came the catch—they insisted we turn around, come back without a realtor, and negotiate the terms in person.

    In hindsight, the red flags were glaring. At the time, we were just young and excited. We’d only made it to the next town over, so back we went to sit with them and work out an agreement that we later learned was heavily biased toward the seller.

    The Used Car Lot “Realtor”
    They had plenty of experience. They’d bought rental properties before, were about thirty years older than us, and had their real estate friend there “just to write up the paperwork.” We met them at his actual business building: a used car sales lot. Meanwhile, we had a suitcase in the backseat, a printed itinerary to Alaska, and a lot of naive trust that people were generally fair. We signed what they put in front of us, then handed the agreement to a lawyer we hired sight unseen because the deal needed to close before we returned from our trip— because this was the trip of a lifetime we’d already postponed once.

    We told ourselves it was fine. We didn’t know enough yet to recognize just how stacked against us the whole setup really was.

    Alaska via Internet Cafés
    From Velva, North Dakota, we hired a real estate lawyer over the phone. From Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, we tracked down a home inspector willing to examine a property we hadn’t even emotionally committed to yet. From a restaurant with spotty Wi-Fi, we opened our email and read the lawyer’s first warning that the terms weren’t great. From Watson Lake, Yukon—somewhere between the Sign Post Forest and actual spruce forests—we began to grasp just how bad the terms really were. And from Anchorage, Alaska, with mountains filling the windows and our honeymoon dreams fading in the background, my husband was completely fed up and trying to convince me to walk away from the whole deal.

    I pushed on anyway, stubborn and hopeful as ever. I hunted down internet cafés and libraries in small towns, asking clerks if they had a scanner I could borrow. I hunched over public computers, printing documents, signing them, re-scanning, and emailing everything back to the lawyer and sellers while other travelers casually checked weather reports or email. There’s a particular absurdity to signing legal addendums about well inspections with bear safety posters hanging on the wall behind you.

    We felt like we were in a real-life Subaru commercial

    Honeymoon Highlights Amid the Chaos
    The road trip itself was everything we’d dreamed of and nothing like we imagined. We drove long stretches of highway that seemed to belong to no one, met kind strangers at gas stations, and watched the sky turn light again at 3 am . We ate sandwiches in the car, argued about which way to turn, and pointed out every moose sighting like excited kids. But running underneath all the glaciers and mountain passes was this constant undercurrent of “Did that email go through?” “What did the lawyer say now?” “Are we making a huge mistake?”

    Geeking out over moose sightings
    The glacier view to end all glacier views

    What That House Meant to Us
    Looking back, what makes this road trip so memorable isn’t just the honeymoon or the bad real estate decision. It was us—very early in our marriage—learning how each of us handles pressure. He was ready to cut our losses for the sake of peace. I was determined not to walk away from something we’d already invested so much in: time, money, emotion, and the dream of that house and property. We took turns being the calm one and the panicked one. We learned how to argue in a car without a door to slam and how to apologize at the next gas station.

    In the end, the house did become ours, but not without real emotional and financial cost.

    However, that property saw us bring home our first child, learn how to garden from scratch, fix a house that needed a lot of love, grade our first driveway, and bring home our very first chickens—the true beginning of our homesteading life. Five years later, we sold it. Not because we didn’t love it, but because we needed to move closer to family as we planned for our daughter.

    The road from Wisconsin to Alaska became the backdrop for midnight phone calls, scanned signatures, and the slow realization that experience and age really do matter when you’re sitting across from someone at a negotiation table—or their used car lot “realtor.”

    If I had it to do over, I’d bring a realtor, a lawyer, and a far more cautious pen. But that trip also forced us to grow up a little faster and see each other clearly, flaws, stubbornness, and all.

    When I think of my most memorable road trip, I don’t just picture mountains or long stretches of Canadian highway. I see a young couple in an overstuffed Subaru, chasing one dream all the way to Alaska while fighting not to lose another one back home.


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    What the World Taught Me About Home

    Do you have a favorite place you have visited? Where is it? The place I love most isn’t on any map. It’s not a landmark or an exotic beach, but it’s the center of everything I’ve learned about belonging. When I trace the path to it, I travel through every memory that once made the…

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  • Wooden Cross Necklace Survived Fire, Lost at Super 8

    Wooden Cross Necklace Survived Fire, Lost at Super 8

    Describe an item you were incredibly attached to as a youth. What became of it?

    What small object survived your worst day—but vanished from a Super 8 nightstand?

    Mine was a simple wooden cross necklace—lacquer-coated wood, brass eye screw at the top, black cord. I received it at a Catholic Confirmation retreat my junior year of high school. Surrounded by teens from other schools, I fell inexplicably in love with it. Wore it constantly, except when bathing.

    The Fire That Almost Took It
    Two weeks after Confirmation—May 28, 2007—I sustained serious burn injuries to my arms and chest. My shirt collar burned away. The black cord was destroyed in the chaos. In the hospital, as I faced blood loss and skin grafts, I assumed the cross was gone forever.

    Then my sister found it—miraculously intact in our driveway. She brought it to me while nurses changed dressings. I was at my lowest point physically and emotionally. That wooden cross became proof of rescue when I needed a miracle most.

    My Anchor Through a Decade of Motion
    I restrung it as soon as healing skin allowed. For the next 10 years, it never left my neck, carrying me through:
    • High school graduation
    • College finals when I doubted everything
    • Early days knowing my now-husband (we got together at 19)
    • Hotel stays traveling with him, friends, family
    • Road trips, work trips, and my first attempts at bread in the breadmaker

    Through hotel check-ins, late-night talks, suitcase unpacking—the cross stayed steady. My talisman during that season of motion, before marriage and kids.

    The Super 8 Loss
    Then one careless moment at a Super 8 in Fresno, California. Forgot it on the nightstand. Realized at the next hotel. Called back. Nothing.

    Ten years of survival—gone. I was devastated.

    What I Carry Now
    That cross wasn’t jewelry. It carried a decade’s worth of rescue:
    • The driveway miracle my sister handed me
    • Hospital reassurance when nurses changed dressings
    • Steady presence from teenage faith to breadmaker experiments with my future husband

    Looking Back: Attachment’s Double Edge
    Losing it taught me objects anchor but don’t last. Their power lives in what they witness, not what they are. That cross saw me from scarred teenager to traveling 20-something experimenting with breadmaker loaves. It helped shape the woman who now kneads bread by hand with her kids’ sticky fingers on our homestead.

    Its lessons remain. Some fires burn cords but not meaning. Some things leave nightstands but not memory.


    What object got you through your 20s transitions—college chaos, early love, pre-kids road trips? Did you keep it? Lose it?

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  • My Mission: Growing Food, Raising Kids, and Building Community — A Path Back to Connection

    My Mission: Growing Food, Raising Kids, and Building Community — A Path Back to Connection

    Daily writing prompt
    What is your mission?

    “We’re stronger together.”
    — A lesson from the land, the past, and the heart.

    Some days, I find myself wondering why I share so much of my messy, joyful, back-to-the-land life. Then I remember—it’s not just a blog; it’s a declaration of purpose. I’m not just learning to grow food or raise livestock. I’m learning to build a life rooted in connection, resilience, and love—the kind of life that feels increasingly rare in our modern world.


    Growing Food

    My mission comes back to the words that guide everything I do: “Growing food, raising kids, building community.”

    Growing food isn’t just about self-sufficiency; it’s about slowing down and remembering that life takes time. Whether it’s a full garden, a few backyard hens, or a pot of herbs on a sunny windowsill, each act connects us to the earth and to the generations who worked it before us.

    You don’t need acres to begin—just a seed, a container, and a little sunlight.

    Even one small step can be the beginning of a more grounded life. Each seed planted is a reminder that we can create abundance with our own hands.


    Raising Kids

    Just as tending the garden teaches patience, so does parenting. Homesteading is a classroom like no other—muddy, humbling, and full of wonder.

    It teaches our children what no textbook can: that hard work matters, that life is cyclical, and that family is their safe harbor in a sometimes harsh world.

    My hope is that my kids grow up knowing home isn’t merely a place—it’s a legacy we build with care and intention. Whether they keep chickens, plant tomatoes, or simply carry these values forward, I want them to understand where they come from and who they are.


    Building Community

    And then there’s community—the heartbeat of homesteading and, I believe, our survival as humans.

    American society often tells us that strength comes from independence—that we should manage everything ourselves, and outsource what we can’t, because we’re too exhausted to do it all. But that version of “strength” leaves us burned out and disconnected.

    True strength doesn’t grow in isolation—it blossoms in interdependence.

    Sometimes that means swapping seeds or recipes; other times, it’s checking on a neighbor or being brave enough to ask for help. We were never meant to do this alone.


    Lessons from the Past

    When I think about how far we’ve drifted from those roots, I can’t help but look back with respect. Our great-grandparents understood community in ways we’ve forgotten.

    Their lives weren’t easy—many faced relentless hardship. I once read about children in rural Wisconsin in the 1930s who walked miles to town barefoot, carrying their shoes so they wouldn’t wear them out. They’d put them on only once they reached town, because those shoes had to last—and often be passed down to the next child.

    Those stories remind me that while the past wasn’t perfect, it carried wisdom worth keeping. People ate real food, raised resilient children, and looked out for their neighbors. They knew that survival wasn’t just about grit—it was about connection and care.


    Planting Hope

    In the end, that’s what I want my life—and this blog—to reflect. I want to inspire others to live intentionally, grow their own food, raise their families with love, and reconnect with the people around them.

    Because when we nurture the soil, our children, and each other, we’re planting more than gardens—we’re planting hope. And in that hope, we rediscover a simple truth our ancestors never forgot:

    We are always stronger together.


    Now it’s your turn. How do you balance modern life’s demands with a desire to live more simply? Tell me about it in the comments. Let’s start a conversation!

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  • Keeping Time With the Land: How Seasonal Living Can Help You Slow Down

    Keeping Time With the Land: How Seasonal Living Can Help You Slow Down

    What the seasons can teach us about slowing down, finding balance, and belonging
    A version of this essay appears in the January 8, 2026 edition of the Dodge County Pionier.


    Ask most people how they measure time today, and the answers sound familiar: alarms, deadlines, color‑coded calendars, the endless scroll of days on a glowing screen. Phone notifications cut across dinner, school schedules slice afternoons into drop‑offs and pickups, and the next bill due date is never far from mind.

    Where I live, time follows a different rhythm—guided not by screens but by the soil itself.

    My family keeps time by the signals nature gives: sap rising in March, turtles crossing the road in May, fireflies at dusk in June, corn drying into gold by October. A cold north wind can say “November” more clearly than any app. These cycles remind us that time isn’t a race toward exhaustion; it’s a loop—a pattern of effort, rest, and return.

    In a world obsessed with productivity, the land offers a quiet lesson: slowing down isn’t falling behind. It’s catching up to what matters.


    Winter: the radical act of rest

    When the holidays end and snow hushes the fields, stillness takes hold. The world outside the window turns soft and muted, as if someone turned down the volume. Days stretch long. Nights invite reading, conversation, and quiet.

    In modern life, that slowness often gets labeled “unproductive.” Inbox counters climb even as the sun sets before dinner. But in the rural calendar, winter is preparation—the season the earth itself uses to heal. Under the frozen top layer, roots are resting, waiting for their cue.

    Inside, a different kind of work takes over: soup on the stove, a deck of cards on the table, a cat snoring near the heat register. There’s no badge for this kind of work, but the house feels fuller for it.

    Winter offers permission to pause. Even without a farm or a woodstove, anyone can claim a bit of that wisdom: choose a few evenings when nothing is scheduled, let the phone stay in another room, and let the quiet do its work.


    Spring: a rehearsal for renewal

    Spring announces itself quietly at first—a drip of meltwater from the eaves, the smell of mud, the first bird that sings before sunrise. One morning the snow looks tired; the next, you notice a thin green line where the lawn meets the sidewalk.

    We tap trees and plant seeds, acts that serve no instant gratification. The sap runs clear and cold, one slow drop after another into plastic jugs. Seed trays sit under lights, all dirt and hope, for weeks before anything green appears. Yet when syrup warms pancakes or sprouts unfurl in a window box, you can taste reward drawn from patience.

    Spring teaches urgency without panic. Ramps, asparagus, morels, and rhubarb arrive in a rush, then slip away as if they were never there. The season reminds us that beginnings are not one-time events but recurring invitations. The world doesn’t ask, “Did you start perfectly?” It asks, “Are you willing to start again?”

    You don’t need a sugar bush or a greenhouse to feel this. A single pot of herbs on a balcony, or a commitment to walk the same city block once a week and notice what’s blooming, can turn spring into a ritual rather than a blur.

    And after that first rush of green, the land hardly pauses—by July, it’s in full voice.


    Summer: where work and joy meet

    By midsummer, everything hums. In the afternoon heat, insects buzz like a low electric current in the fields. Lawnmowers start and stop up and down the street. Windows are open, and someone, somewhere, is grilling.

    Gardens overflow. Tomatoes split if you don’t pick them in time. Zucchini multiplies on the counter and quietly appears on neighbors’ doorsteps. Kids shriek through sprinklers, leaving wet footprints on hot pavement. Even the air smells different: cut grass, sunscreen, diesel from a tractor on a distant road.

    Like the growing season, our best days often mix effort with enjoyment. Summer’s lesson is simple: work and joy are not enemies. They often belong in the same hour. There is satisfaction in going to bed with dirt under your fingernails and the memory of a late sunset still bright in your mind.

    The reward for effort can be as close as a ripe berry, a shared picnic in a city park, or a tired, happy body at the end of a long, light-filled day.


    Autumn: gratitude and gathering

    Autumn softens the light and sharpens the air. Mornings carry that first hint of frost, and you can see your breath if you step outside before the sun gets serious. Leaves turn from green to gold and red, then crunch underfoot in the driveway.

    The season’s abundance—pumpkins on porches, apples piled in crates, shelves lined with jars and loaves—reminds us how much depends on cooperation: between people, earth, and time. No one person makes a harvest alone. There are seed savers, farm workers, truck drivers, grocers, and cooks all woven into the meal.

    Gratitude, in this season, isn’t just a word reserved for a single holiday. It’s the habit of looking at an ordinary table—soup, bread, a piece of fruit—and seeing the many hands and seasons that brought it there.

    Even in an apartment, autumn can become a practice of gathering: inviting friends over for a simple pot of chili, walking through a park under changing trees, or taking five extra minutes to watch the early dark settle in instead of rushing past it.


    What circles can teach a linear world

    When winter returns, it’s easy to see it as a setback: dark, cold, the end of something. But the more closely the seasons are watched, the clearer it becomes that time does not move in a straight line. It hums in a circle.

    Each season brings another chance to begin again—not by doing more, but by noticing more. The calendar on the wall may march from one square to the next, but the world outside repeats its old, trustworthy patterns: thaw, bloom, heat, harvest, rest.

    Wherever you live—city or countryside—you can keep time with the land in your own way. Let January be a little slower. Let spring mean at least one meal built around what is fresh where you are. Let summer include a night spent outdoors until it’s fully dark. Let autumn carry a moment of thanks, even if it’s just whispered over a sink full of dishes.

    The land has never hurried. It always arrives where it should. Maybe we can too, if we’re willing to step out of the race now and then and walk in circles for a while instead.


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  • Homestead Longevity Habits: Growing Food, Raising Kids, Real Life

    What are your thoughts on the concept of living a very long life?

    Do you want to live to 100—or just live well until 98, still gathering eggs with grandkids?

    I don’t know if I’ll get there, but my great-grandfather did, according to my Dad. He was lucid and mobile nearly to the end. In my mid-30s, I’m stacking practical habits on our homestead to increase those odds: growing food, raising kids, building community.

    My Daily Longevity Playbook
    Stress reduction starts by cuddling with my kids—reading to them works better than any app.

    I aim for a half-hour outside daily, walking our land or talking to friends on the phone. Friendships faded for years after college, but now I’m rebuilding. I pursue projects with neighbors, a monthly book club I love (the reading! the conversations!), and a local women’s business group. These are the bonds that science says add years to your life.

    Food comes mostly from our backyard or my hands. Kneading bread with kids’ sticky fingers. Simmering soups from last week’s harvest. My toddler daughter prefers kitchen chaos—stirring, measuring—over outdoor chores (though she squeals for eggs). These moments teach more than nutrition.

    Movement stays simple. Fifteen minutes most mornings. Hauling feed sacks, chasing little legs—it builds bones that last.

    We’re saving more than 15% now—no desks at 90. Self-reliance cuts costs. Growing our own feeds the plan.

    Parenting builds the deepest roots. Our six-year-old folds laundry (grumbling). Toddler “helps” everywhere. These shared chores create memories stronger than birthday cards decades from now.

    Marriage anchors everything. My husband and I have cultivated collaboration—shared goals, complementary strengths. He lifts heavy, builds systems. I tend garden rhythms, kid routines. This divides loads, multiplies joy, limits resentment. Longevity for two definitely beats going it alone.

    Sleep: The Hardest Reset
    Pre-kids, unbroken sleep was default. Now? Night wakings, early risers, worry-spinning mind. Relearning happens slowly: early dinners, screen-free evenings, herbal tea. One solid night compounds.

    What 98 Years Taught Me
    My dad remembers Great-Grandpa’s callused hands still driving around at 95, pipe smoke clinging to his flannel. No protocols—just simple food, steady movement, people who mattered. That’s my blueprint.

    I see myself at 90 on our porch: grandkids gathering eggs, husband rocking nearby, son and daughter helping us, friends sharing harvest soup. That picture fuels every dirt-caked morning.

    The Homestead Longevity Formula
    Growing food, raising kids, building community—these practices stack together, increasing the odds of a long life according to science. Whole foods fight inflammation, movement builds resilience, relationships protect telomeres. I don’t know if I’ll reach 98, but I’m doing what I can to tilt the scales. Truth hits hardest when flour dusts my daughter’s nose or my husband and I split evening chores by instinct.


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    What Could I Do Differently? Homesteading, Kids Chores, and Friend Connections

    What could you do differently?

    I catch myself asking this while scrubbing potatoes at the sink, weeding garden rows, or picking up blocks for the tenth time.

    On our homestead, the work never stops. But lately, I’ve seen a few clear ways to shift — not for perfection, but for more peace, presence, and real connection with the people who matter most.

    Slow My Yes. Guard My Rest.
    Here’s one big change: I’d say yes more slowly. And treat rest like a non-negotiable chore.

    Extra commitments sneak in easily — kid activities, one more property project, favors for friends. They’re good things. Until they blur our days into exhaustion.

    Rest isn’t optional. It’s fuel.

    What that looks like for us:
    – One protected family evening weekly. No plans. No screens.
    – A slower morning after big days, even if dishes wait.
    – Sometimes my best “yes” is actually no — leaving margin for what refills us.

    Pull the Kids Closer (Mess and All)
    When I’m tired, my instinct is “just do it myself.” That’s changing.

    We’ve asked our six-year-old to help clean and put clothes away. He sighs. Drags his feet through the laundry pile. Grumbles. But he does it. And when he does, my load lightens. We talk about his day while he folds socks and I straighten up the living room. We laugh when a shirt lands inside-out.

    Kids helping isn’t efficient. It’s essential.

    Those small chores build something bigger: his sense of belonging, our family rhythm, moments to actually connect instead of just managing the house around him.

    Make Space for Neighbors
    Right now, we’re looking for more neighbor friends — the kind who stop by with garden produce or help with a project. Lately, I’ve been carving out time for one friend, helping her keep up with a winter garden. We talk animals, plot cold frames, and hope for a game night soon under blankets with hot cocoa.

    That’s the kind of margin I want more of. Not just for projects, but people. The garden beds matter. But so do late talks about goats versus chickens, shared labor on a neighbor’s shed, or laughter over cards with new friends nearby.

    Real community doesn’t form on a schedule. It grows.

    What I could do differently: protect one flexible afternoon weekly for whoever shows up — the neighbor with a question about crop rotation, or someone new walking up the drive. Our homestead thrives when the people around it do, too.

    The Change That Stays
    These shifts aren’t a checklist to conquer. They’re small turns toward what matters:

    – Saying yes slower.
    – Resting on purpose.
    – Inviting kids into real chores like cleaning and clothes.
    – Making room for neighbors, not just garden rows.

    The weeds won’t stop growing. The laundry won’t vanish. But with these changes, our home could become what I picture most:

    A place where garden beds,
    kids folding tiny clothes,
    and neighbors’ boots on the porch
    all thrive side by side.


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