Category: Gardening

  • Why I Hate “What Do You Do?” – Homesteader’s Answer

    Why I Hate “What Do You Do?” – Homesteader’s Answer

    Daily writing prompt
    What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.

    I hate the question “What do you do for a living?” because it shrinks a whole person into one job title. A single answer can’t capture the messy, beautiful layers of real life.

    Why It Feels Reducing

    People ask it as small talk icebreaker—easy, automatic. But I’ve learned the hard way that life isn’t defined by work. Take me: yes, I’m an environmental professional by trade. That’s just my 9-to-5, and I’m very passionate about what I do.

    The rest of me lives as a writer spinning homestead stories, a homesteader pulling winter carrots from frozen soil, a mom wrangling morning meltdowns, and a caretaker tending clucking chickens, strutting turkeys, and pigs rooting through the mud (who will hopefully farrow for the first time around Mother’s Day).

    These homesteading roles shape me equally—maybe more. The question pretends otherwise.

    Who It Leaves Out

    Worse, it sidelines anyone without “traditional employment.” Stay-at-home parents, caregivers, homesteaders, creators between gigs—they get frozen out. Conversation stalls: “Oh, nothing?” as if their days lack value.

    I’ve watched friends flush, stammer, or deflect. Motherhood is full-time labor. Homesteading demands innovation daily. Caretaking livestock like pigs and chickens builds worlds from scratch. Why does a paystub trump that?

    Better Questions Exist

    When cornered, I say: “I protect land by day, grow food and stories by life.” But I’d rather flip it: “What lights you up outside work?” That uncovers the human underneath.

    People are mosaics, not labels. Next time you’re tempted, ask about passions instead.

    Practical Homesteading: growing food, raising kids, building community.


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  • 10 Unexpected Things I Love About Homesteading Life

    10 Unexpected Things I Love About Homesteading Life

    Before I started, I thought homesteading would mean endless chores and calloused hands. Instead, I’ve discovered these quiet joys that keep me hooked on this life.

    1. Dry toast mornings that actually work
    Recently, I started my 6-year-old son’s day by hugging him for two minutes (and telling him how great it was to see him) instead of rushing him. He ate his plain toast (despite us asking three times if he wanted butter or peanut butter—little monster), and we got to school early enough for playground time. Who knew starting slow could make us faster?

    2. Winter carrots tasting like candy
    Pulled bright orange carrots from frozen ground under snow and straw this past February. The deep cold turns their starches to sugars—they’re sweeter than anything from the store. I’m eating them in a pot roast dinner tonight. Proof that nature knows best.

    3. The taste of fresh mushrooms is incomparable
    I’ve successfully grown oyster mushrooms in a straw substrate, and they are delicious—so much tastier than the button mushrooms you get at the store (and those are good). I started shiitakes last year too, but they haven’t fruited yet (hoping they will this spring).

    4. Kids eating garden “weeds” they hate from stores
    My children turn up their noses at store kale but devour it fresh from our beds. They pull radishes straight from soil and munch like apples. Familiar dirt makes everything taste better.

    5. Fresh air fixing my mood instantly
    Ten minutes outside—picking beans, checking chickens, or just sitting—resets my whole nervous system. No therapy session beats weeding when anxiety creeps in. It’s free medicine growing right in my yard.

    6. Writing turning chaos into clarity
    Hospital stays, morning meltdowns, scar shame—scribbling it all down transforms tangle into meaning. What starts as venting becomes connection when I hit “publish.” This blog is my compost pile for hard emotions.

    7. Self-care mornings making me patient
    A quick workout and solid sleep before the kids wake up changes everything. Instead of snapping at heavy feelings, I can breathe through dysregulation and model it for my kids. The mom who shows up calm handles chaos ten times better.

    8. Crockpot smells everyone loves
    Even in my college dorm, that slow cooker made my floor smell like home. Now it draws my family to the kitchen hours before dinner’s ready. Simple food, big magic.

    9. Small wins building big confidence
    One perfect carrot harvest, one peaceful school drop-off, one good paragraph—they stack up. Each success whispers, “You can do hard things.” Homesteading proves I’m tougher than I think.

    10. Coming home to my roots wiser
    The girl who couldn’t wait to escape Dodge County returned at 33—not out of failure, but choice. I’ve circled back to gardening, animals, community with new eyes. Leaving helped me love it more.

    Practical Homesteading: growing food, raising kids, building community.


    What’s your unexpected love in this lifestyle? Share below—I’d love to hear!


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  • How My Pizza Fail Built Homesteading Confidence

    How My Pizza Fail Built Homesteading Confidence

    Daily writing prompt
    How has a failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?

    A cooking disaster in my freshman dorm set me up for homesteading success I never expected. One apparent failure became the foundation for kitchen confidence.

    Freshman Year Pizza Disaster

    My first “from-scratch” pizza took three times longer than delivery. The crust was a brick, sauce too acidic, toppings slid everywhere. My future husband politely choked it down. Mortifying.

    That flop taught me two things: failure stings less when shared, and every kitchen mistake teaches something concrete. I started measuring flour properly, tasting as I went. Zucchini bread followed (once ruined by tablespoons of salt instead of teaspoons—inedible).

    Homesteading Kitchen Payoff

    Fast forward to our rural homestead. Now I confidently make:

    • Pizza dough my kids beg for weekly
    • Sourdough from wild yeast I captured
    • Crockpot meals filling our home with irresistible smells
    • Garden sauces from our own tomatoes

    A couple of weeks ago, I pulled winter carrots (candy-sweet from the freeze) for pot roast. No one would guess this calm came from serving weaponized pizza.

    Failure’s Gift: Iteration Over Perfection

    Cooking disasters built my homesteading confidence through kitchen iteration:

    • Mushroom logs fruited after many soggy failures
    • Morning routines work after dozens of meltdowns
    • Patience grew through dysregulation disasters

    Apparent failure = practice reps for real skills. That freshman flop was my first composting lesson: even burnt crust feeds future growth.


    What’s a failure that set YOU up for success? Share below!

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  • I Sold My Dream Homestead: Why Smaller Is Better Now

    I Sold My Dream Homestead: Why Smaller Is Better Now

    Daily writing prompt
    Write about your dream home.

    I lived in my dream home once. Five perfect years on eighteen acres that felt more like a nature preserve than a homestead.

    The property sat so far back from a quiet road you could barely hear traffic. Wetlands hugged the front entrance, a half-acre pond sparkled right outside my kitchen window, and open fields rolled out behind the house. My husband and I would wander at dusk, holding hands, and catch our breath watching deer bound through the brush or minks slip through the water. Early spring mornings, we’d sip coffee at that kitchen window watching territorial geese squabble fiercely over pond space, then just weeks later cheer as fluffy goslings bobbed behind their parents. Our three-year-old thought he’d discovered paradise—he’d spend hours crouched in mud, catching frogs and running them up to the house like Olympic gold medals, muddy hands and all.

    View of our pond outside the kitchen window.

    Inside felt just as special. The split-level house sat partially underground, which kept temperatures steady through brutal summers and icy winters. Downstairs, a stone fireplace became our winter sanctuary. We’d lose entire evenings to its crackle and glow, or turn Sunday afternoons into smoky feasts—grilling chicken right there over a makeshift setup, eating straight off paper plates while the fire warmed our backs.

    Upstairs opened into something magical. Reclaimed board ceilings gave it soul. A balcony hung right over the pond view, helping me transition to work from home as I took phone calls while watching hummingbirds dart past. And the south wall? Pure windows. We called that space the plant room. On the grayest February days, I’d stand barefoot in that flood of sunlight and swear spring had snuck in early. That light. I still miss that light.

    But even dream homes come with strings attached.

    Spring rains turned our long driveway into a lake because of those front wetlands. The previous owners built it themselves, and you could tell—endless quirks and half-finished details everywhere. I called it our “teenage house.” Thirty years old. Just old enough for all the newer systems to start failing, but not old enough to have the solid bones of those century farmhouses I love.

    We stretched our budget to buy it, paying more than we planned. The shed out back could barely fit my husband’s equipment, and there wasn’t realistic room to expand. Slowly but surely, our days shrank down to just three things: parenting, working, fixing. We were running on a treadmill to justify living in paradise, too exhausted for the actual living part.

    After five unforgettable years, we made the hard call. Sold it all. Downsized to a fixer-upper we could actually afford and breathe in. Do I miss that house? Every single day. The pond at sunset. The plant room light. Our son’s frog-hunting grin.

    But here’s what we gained: homestead life with breathing room. This smaller homestead now keeps more animals than those 18 acres ever dreamed of. Our homestead garden produces more than double what we grew back then. Now, we’re outside together—hands in the dirt, teaching kids to plant, actually enjoying the slow rhythm we moved here for.

    My definition of dream homestead changed. It used to be postcard-perfect acreage and a house that bathed you in light. Now? It’s a place that fits how we actually live—room for animals, kids, projects, rest, and each other. Sometimes you walk away from your first dream home to build the homestead life that lets you actually live the dream.


    Have you ever left a “dream” situation for something better? What’s YOUR dream homestead?

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  • From Gilmore Girls to Growing Food: My Homestead Mom Journey

    From Gilmore Girls to Growing Food: My Homestead Mom Journey

    Daily writing prompt
    Are there any activities or hobbies you’ve outgrown or lost interest in over time?

    Yes, I’ve outgrown my pre-kids habit of Gilmore Girls marathons on quiet evenings.

    My Pre-Kids Gilmore Girls Habit
    Back then, entire Saturdays disappeared into couch time with coffee and comfort shows. It filled the silence when my days felt empty. But I’d always surface feeling guilty—wanting more from my time but stuck in the cycle of TV marathons to beach days.

    Motherhood’s Homestead Mom Journey
    My son (and later daughter) arrived and rewrote my busy mom routine. Beach walks replaced Netflix queues—we’d chase waves and hunt seashells, sandy toes and all. Late-night binging became kitchen nights—flour-dusted noses, kneading pasta dough together while singing silly songs. Quiet alone time transformed into side-by-side seed starting, their tiny fingers pushing basil seeds into soil, then cheering their first sprouts.

    Seed Starting with Kids Changed Everything
    Now our homestead garden feeds us—those basil pots grew into tomatoes, beans, onions. This motherhood shift brought fresh air through beach walks, creative connection through cooking together, and patience through gardening my children can touch.

    No guilt now—just full days growing food, making memories, building our slow living mom rhythm. My pre-kids evenings served their purpose. This hands-on homestead chapter? It’s what my heart was made for.

    Feature Photo by Khanh Do on Unsplash


    What’s one habit you outgrew after kids? Share below—I’d love to hear your transformation story!

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  • Easy Homemade Dumplings: A Kid‑Friendly Family Recipe with Garden Fresh Veggies

    Easy Homemade Dumplings: A Kid‑Friendly Family Recipe with Garden Fresh Veggies

    Earlier this week, I shared how Chinese‑inspired dumplings have become one of our family’s favorite dishes to make together.

    Today, I’m sharing the practical side—the ingredients, the process, and a few kid‑friendly tips that keep it fun instead of fussy.

    These dumplings aren’t about perfection or authenticity. They’re about slowing down, folding stories into dough, and turning a simple meal into a memory.


    The Dough

    Simple on purpose. This is a forgiving dough—perfect for little helpers.

    You’ll need:

    • 2⅓ cups all‑purpose flour
    • ¾ cup hot water

    How we do it:

    1. Mix flour and water until the dough looks shaggy.
    2. Let it rest 5 minutes so the flour can hydrate.
    3. Knead until tacky but not sticky—about 10 minutes—then cover and let rest for 30–60 minutes.

    Tip: Let kids feel the dough at each stage—it teaches patience and awareness in the kitchen.


    The Filling

    Flexible and flavorful. We rarely make the same mix twice!

    Base recipe:

    • ½ lb ground beef (or pork, turkey, or tofu—whatever’s handy)
    • ¼ cup chicken stock (adds moisture and creaminess to the mixture)
    • 1 Tbsp soy sauce
    • 1 Tbsp dry sherry or rice wine
    • 2 tsp powdered or 1 Tbsp fresh ginger
    • 1 tsp salt
    • ¼ tsp black pepper
    • About 2 cups finely chopped vegetables (onion, bok choy, cabbage, carrot, or mushrooms)

    Combine everything in a food processor or large bowl. Cover and refrigerate until ready to use.


    Shaping the Dumplings

    Divide the dough into thirds. Roll each third into a thin sheet—about ⅛ inch (3 mm) thick. Use a round cutter (or the top of a cup) to stamp circles.

    Add a spoonful of filling to the center of each, fold, and pinch to seal.

    We use a handheld crimper that seals on one side while cutting on the other—perfect for small hands.

    The folds may look rustic, but that’s part of their charm.


    Steaming

    Line a bamboo steamer with cabbage leaves or perforated parchment paper. Place dumplings about an inch apart so they don’t stick together.

    Set the steamer over a skillet or wok with about a quart (1 L) of boiling water. Steam 8–10 minutes, until the wrappers turn slightly translucent.

    Your kitchen will smell wonderfully savory—earthy, gingery, and faintly sweet.


    The Sauce

    Minimal effort, maximum flavor.

    Our usual combo:

    • 2 Tbsp soy sauce
    • 2 Tbsp black vinegar
    • 1 tsp sesame oil
    • A pinch of toasted sesame seeds

    Mix and serve in small bowls for dipping.


    Kid‑Friendly and Community‑Friendly Tips

    • Make it social. Invite a neighbor or friend to join the folding line; conversations rise like steam.
    • Keep it relaxed. Expect sticky fingers and imperfect folds—they’re evidence of fun, not failure.
    • Garden‑to‑table joy. Use homegrown bok choy or green onions if you can—they add freshness and pride.
    • Double the batch. Cooked leftovers freeze perfectly, and neighbors never say no to take‑home dumplings.

    Serving

    Serve the dumplings hot with dipping sauces and steamed vegetables on the side. We usually eat them family‑style, with the bamboo steamer set in the middle of the table while someone inevitably steals the last one.

    Enjoy with people who understand that food, like love, multiplies when it’s shared. Every fold and laugh at the table keeps us growing—food, kids, and community all together.


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  • An Ideal Summer Day of Simple Homestead Living With Family

    An Ideal Summer Day of Simple Homestead Living With Family

    Daily writing prompt
    Describe your most ideal day from beginning to end.

    Simplicity isn’t about doing less — it’s about noticing more. My ideal day on our little homestead is built around that truth. It’s a day where time stretches wide, full of laughter, sunshine, and slow, simple living.


    Morning Calm and Connection

    The day begins the way I love best — with toddler kisses, a sleepy hug from my six-year-old, and my husband beside me. Before the world fully wakes, we take a quiet moment to breathe together. There are no alarms, no emails, no errands pulling us away. The only plan is to move through the day at a gentle rhythm, enjoying each other’s company and the sweetness of home.


    Breakfast and the Beauty of Routine

    Breakfast is a family affair. My husband gathers eggs while I grind coffee beans and brew a fresh pot. The kids take their favorite jobs — cracking eggs (usually with some shell), preparing pancake batter, and frying bacon. We cook with the windows open, sunlight pouring in and the sound of birds joining our morning conversation.

    The meal is simple and colorful: fresh eggs, pancakes, and bacon from last year’s pigs. It takes longer, but it’s richer in every way because we do it together.


    Hands in the Dirt, Hearts at Ease

    After breakfast, my husband heads out to refill the animals’ water tanks and check the garden fences. Meanwhile, the kids and I harvest what’s ready — sun-warmed tomatoes, crisp cucumbers, and snap peas that rarely make it to the kitchen. We feed the chickens, pick up toys outside, and pause often to feel the warmth of the day settling in.

    The work hums softly in the background; it’s grounding, steady, and quietly joyful — the soundtrack of homestead life.


    Raising Kids on a Homestead

    By late morning, the chores shift to play. We might pack up for an outing — a trip to the library or a shady walk by the Horicon Marsh — or stay close to home and make our own adventure. My husband and son might build something simple, like a birdhouse or garden trellis, while my daughter and I mix water, flower petals, and herbs in the “mud kitchen.”

    These are the moments where raising kids on a homestead feels magical — learning through exploration, imagination, and plenty of sunshine.


    Building Homestead Community

    Around noon, our neighbor stops by with a bag of fresh Amish bakery treats. He stays for a half hour just to chat at the kitchen table while the kids dart in and out. We sip lemonade and trade stories about gardens, weather, and local goings-on.

    These spontaneous visits are at the heart of homestead community — the easy, come-as-you-are friendships that summer invites. When he heads out, we make a quick lunch of garden sandwiches and homemade pickles, laughing over whose plate is the messiest.


    The Rhythm of Slow Living

    The afternoon drifts by in that perfect blend of rest and play. My toddler naps, the older one curls up with a book or joins my husband hoeing the garden, and I steal a few quiet minutes with a book on the bench outside our door. Later, we cool off in the sprinkler, make homemade popsicles, or pick raspberries from the patch.

    The hours stretch unhurried — each one filled with that golden kind of peace slow living on a homestead offers.


    Simple Suppers and Summer Evenings

    As evening settles, supper becomes another shared project. My husband fires up the grill while I toss a big garden salad and slice the first broccoli of the season. The kids set the picnic table beneath the maple tree. We eat outside, barefoot and happy, surrounded by the hum of summer — crickets chirping, bees buzzing, and the sky fading into soft pink.

    After dinner, we linger. Sometimes it’s s’mores over the firepit, other nights it’s catching fireflies or telling stories under the stars.


    The Gift of Enough

    When the kids are asleep, my husband and I share a quiet moment on the park bench — two cold beers, warm night air, and a shared silence that says, “This is exactly where we’re meant to be.”

    These days remind me that simplicity isn’t a destination; it’s a daily choice — a rhythm we return to when life feels too loud. Most of us don’t get many days like this, but even small pieces of them are enough to steady the heart.

    This is my ideal summer day: no deadlines, no projects, no rush. Just the four of us growing food, raising kids, building community, and living a simple homestead life that teaches us how beautiful “enough” really is.

    Feature Photo by Michelle Tresemer on Unsplash


    💬 Tell me about your ideal summer day! What does simple living look like in your home or community? Share your thoughts or your favorite summer traditions in the comments — I love hearing how other families find joy in the everyday.

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  • What Making Dumplings with My Son Taught Me About Food, Family, and Connection

    What Making Dumplings with My Son Taught Me About Food, Family, and Connection

    Daily writing prompt
    What’s your favorite thing to cook?

    When You Ask a Six‑Year‑Old for Help

    This prompt stumped me at first. I love cooking most things, especially when I get to share the meal with people I love. So I took the easy route and invited my six‑year‑old son into the kitchen to help me decide.

    His first instinct was “cookie bars,” which is adorable and perfectly on brand for him—but for me? That’s too easy a win. So we pivoted, and his second answer surprised me: my Chinese‑inspired dumplings—proof he’s been paying attention.


    A Learner in the Kitchen

    I call them “Chinese‑inspired” because I’m not Chinese, and I’ve never been to China. That disclaimer isn’t an apology—it’s a reminder that I’m always learning in the kitchen.

    These dumplings are the kind you steam rather than fry: thin flour wrappers cradling a savory mix of meat and vegetables. I fold them with a rhythm that often makes it look like my son did the work, which feels exactly right—dumplings should look handled, not manufactured. Every crimped edge reminds me that cooking is more about process than perfection.


    A College Detour in Mandarin

    My dumpling story began long before the dough hit the counter. In college, I took three semesters of Chinese on a whim—Spanish was full, and Chinese looked interesting.

    I learned how a stray tone could turn “mother” into “horse,” a lesson that stuck far beyond the classroom. On Friday nights, a Chinese roundtable met on campus. We practiced speaking—and sometimes, we shared steamed dumplings.

    I can still taste that first one, dipped in soy sauce, black vinegar, and sesame oil: warm, tender, and endlessly comforting. It tasted like a small passport stamp on my college life.


    The Janky Restaurant Valentine

    Months later, early in our relationship, my now‑husband and I found ourselves in a tiny, sticky‑floored Chinese restaurant on State Street in Madison. It was Valentine’s Day. The décor was questionable, the menu unpredictable, but the dumplings? Pure joy.

    We ate until we were full and a little giddy. That meal wasn’t about romance; it was about finding comfort in something humble and good—a truth the sticky floor couldn’t ruin.


    Bringing Dumplings Home

    As I started cooking more at home, I wanted to recreate that feeling. I planted bok choy in the garden—there’s something deeply satisfying about pulling a crisp green leaf from soil you’ve nurtured.

    I experimented with what I had: powdered ginger instead of fresh, onions for sweetness, ground beef for substance. A simple bamboo steamer lined with cabbage leaves kept the dumplings from sticking to the rack.

    The dumplings weren’t authentic, but they were ours. And authenticity, for me, isn’t a destination—it’s a doorway to learning and connection.


    Learning Together, One Mess at a Time

    Now, when my son and I roll dough together, the process has turned into a ritual. We talk, we laugh, we listen to a podcast, and flour drifts across the counter (and occasionally, Black Cat).

    We’re not just making food—we’re making memories that stick, as any good dumpling does. And honestly, we laugh more over flour than over finished meals.


    What It All Comes Back To

    Food weaves together people, places, and time. These dumplings hold it all—college curiosity, early love, homegrown bok choy, and the joyful chaos of raising a child.

    Growing food, raising kids, building community—it all finds its way back to the kitchen.

    Feature Photo by Janesca on Unsplash


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  • What I Complain About Most: Why Farmers Deserve More Appreciation (And How We’re Reconnecting)

    What I Complain About Most: Why Farmers Deserve More Appreciation (And How We’re Reconnecting)

    Daily writing prompt
    What do you complain about the most?

    I used to be a champion complainer—until I realized it never planted a single seed worth growing.


    I try not to complain too much. It’s a nasty habit that usually leaves me feeling worse than before I started. Instead, I try to live by the words of the Serenity Prayer:

    “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
    The courage to change the things I can,
    And the wisdom to know the difference.”

    When I catch myself slipping into that spiral of frustration, I remind myself of those lines. If there’s something I can fix, I get to work on it. If there isn’t, I try to shift my perspective. Some days, that works beautifully. Other days, not so much—but it’s a practice, and a worthwhile one.


    When Passion Comes from Frustration

    Still, there are some things bigger than myself that I can’t quite let go of—issues that deserve our collective attention. That’s where my frustration tends to turn into passion.

    If you really want to know what gets me on my soapbox, it’s this: how undervalued the foundation of our society has become—the farmer.


    Lessons from the Milking Barn

    I grew up on a dairy farm surrounded by fields, animals, and five hardworking older sisters. My dad, like many farmers, cautioned us not to follow in his footsteps. He didn’t say that out of bitterness; he said it out of love.

    He knew farming demanded endless hours, uncertain pay, and a body that rarely got a day off. The cows still needed milking before dawn, even after a night of broken sleep or if you were sick. The hay still needed to come in, even if rain clouds were gathering on the horizon. And no matter how hard you worked, the weather or the market could undo it all in a single season. With today’s global markets, that uncertainty feels even sharper than it did thirty years ago.


    The Great Disconnect

    Despite all that labor, society often treats farmers as an afterthought. We depend on them for our most basic need: food. Yet we seem disconnected from what it truly takes to put dinner on the table. It’s astonishing how quickly that disconnect happened. In just two or three generations, we’ve gone from home gardens, backyard chickens, and canning jars in the pantry to drive‑thru dinners and foods that travel thousands of miles before reaching us.

    Our modern food system is complicated. We’ve gained convenience but lost some wisdom along the way—wisdom about soil, seasons, and self‑sufficiency. Many children have never pulled a carrot from the ground or gathered a fresh egg. Even adults often feel surprised to learn where their food comes from.


    Marketing Replaces Memory

    Not long ago, I saw a potato chip bag proudly labeled “Made with Real Potatoes,” as if that were some sort of revelation. It made me laugh—and then it made me sad.

    Somewhere along the way, marketing replaced knowledge. We began trusting brands more than the soil, and food became a product instead of a shared experience. When I mentioned it on my Facebook page, people chimed in from everywhere. It turns out, so many of us feel the same way—grateful for convenience, but yearning to reconnect.


    Growing, Raising, and Reconnecting

    That little moment reminded me why I care so deeply about growing food, raising kids, and building community. These things are intertwined. When children understand where their meals come from, when we grow even a small piece of what we eat, when neighbors come together to share skills, seeds, and harvests—we start to rebuild that lost connection. Even something as simple as buying from a local farmers market, planting herbs on a windowsill, or teaching a child how to cook can make a difference.

    So maybe I don’t really complain all that much anymore. Maybe what I’m doing is something better: advocating, educating, and planting small seeds of change and connection in my backyard and in my community. Because while I can’t change the world overnight, I can nurture the soil right in front of me. And that feels like a pretty good start.


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    If this post stirred something in you, here are a few places to start learning, growing, and preserving more of your own food. I only share resources I truly find useful.

    • Read and reflect: One book that has deeply shaped how I think about food and farming is The Omnivore’s Dilemma by Michael Pollan. It follows several different meals from source to table and invites you to really consider where your food comes from and who grows it. You can buy it in my link or borrow it from your local library.
    • Learn the basics of preserving: The Ball Book of Preserving is a solid, economical place to start if you’re new to canning. It covers the fundamentals clearly without feeling overwhelming, and it’s a great first step into safe home food preservation.
    • Go deeper with more recipes: The Ball Complete Book of Home Preserving is a much more comprehensive resource, with many more recipes and techniques. It’s a bigger investment, but worth it if you discover that preserving is something you love and want to keep expanding.
    • My home preservation essentials: I’ve put together an Amazon list of tools and books I use or recommend for dehydrating, canning, and freezing food at home. You can find it here: Home Preservation Essentials.

    If you have favorite books, tools, or simple tips for beginners who want to grow or preserve their own food, please share them in the comments—I’d love to learn from you, too!


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  • Seeds of Patience: What Planting Onions with My Child Taught Me About Growth

    Seeds of Patience: What Planting Onions with My Child Taught Me About Growth

    My six‑year‑old son and I stand together in the soft, golden light of a winter morning. Outside, the world lies quiet under a thin layer of snow. Inside, our kitchen hums with gentle purpose. On an old sour cream container cover, tiny onion seeds rest—black flecks of promise. The soil waits to cradle them in recycled strawberry cartons. My son points to the sunbeam and whispers that the floating dust looks like magic. I smile and agree.

    With tweezers in hand, I show him how to lift each seed and drop it into place. He tries once, twice, and then finds his rhythm. We do this a hundred times—two sets of hands planting quiet hope in the soil. The air smells of earth and possibility. Even in midwinter, there’s life brewing under our fingertips.

    I am struck by how vulnerable each seed is—relying entirely on us for warmth, water, and light. They hold the potential to feed our family, just as my son holds his own potential, waiting for the right care to help him thrive. I can give him a home, guidance, and love, but not control what takes root or how quickly it grows. All I can do is nurture and trust.

    Each morning, we peek into the trays. Nothing happens—until, suddenly, everything does. A thin green shoot bends toward the light, impossibly fragile yet fierce in its will to live. I feel that same thrill watching my son master something new. The patience, the waiting, the joy of discovery—all unfolds in its own time.

    Over the weeks, we’ll water carefully, clip the tops, and ready the seedlings for their place in the garden. By summer, they’ll feed us, just as these shared moments feed me in ways I never expected. It feels good to know that something small, started with care, can ripple outward into community.

    Gardening keeps teaching me that growth—whether in a seed, a child, or a neighborhood—comes from the same things: attention, patience, and faith in what we cannot yet see. Maybe that’s why tending these small beginnings feels so deeply hopeful.

    In my next post, I’ll share exactly how we start our onions indoors each January, in case you’d like to bring a little green magic into your own winter days.


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